chocolatekisses Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Advice needed. Im engaged and I think I am in love with my ex-step brother. We have been attracted to eachother since we were 6 years old. Our parents ended up getting a divorce when we were 10. Anyways he has moved to another state and before he left he told me he has feelings for me, and I have to add that we slept together but me and my fiance we broken up at that time. My fiance kicked me to the curb after cheating on me over 2 years ago, so I spent a lot of time with the ex-bro. During that time we were split up I learned a lot about myself, and just recently come to realize these feelings are real. I love my fiance but we have nothing in common and he drinks a lot. Now since my ex-bro moved away he has yet to call me. Basically I have the option to move to where he is, but I feel he is hurt by me not leaving fiance. Im so screwed up I don't know if I am coming or going. any advice?
whichwayisup Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Please do not get married. I think you need to be by yourself and figure out YOU and what you want out of life. You even say you love your Fiancee, but don't have much incommon and he drinks alot! Why would you want to marry someone who isn't really suitable for you? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who shares common interests and goals in life? Be alone, figure things out. You can't do this with two men in your life. Good luck!
clandestinidad Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 If you already have those big issues with your fiance they're going to get worse over time. You know this. And you know that he's not right for you. My guess is that youre worried about breaking if off for a couple reasons, maybe youre not sure that you'll find someone better or something. I agree w/ WWIU, do NOT marry this man because you know he's not right for you. (otherwise you wouldnt be in this situation, or posting the way that you did) You're confused about someone else, and need to figure that out. Engagements end all the time. Its not that big of a deal, dont feel so bad about it.
SuperMonk Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Yeah I agree.... with... the ^^^ women... Take care of things one at a time, before you think about visiting that other dude - end the relationship with this current person. You've already stated that the both of you seem to be incompatible, do what works!
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