Don't want to end up a rash and burn type relationship: Really just taking it slow?

[Wing]

Thanks, Mary3.

His profile is active, and he has been on there few times just this afternoon. and he was rude when he talked to me on msn, only for maybe 2 minutes.

its like:

him: hey

me: hey

him: how are you

me: im good, thanks, how was your day?

him: im ok

me:are you free at the moment?

him:why?for what?

me: havent talk to you for days. just to chat.

him: sick, and in bad mood.

him: have to go. bye.

~him went offline~

 

I can't tolerate this anymore. he never talked to me this way.never ever before just recent days. I try to understand that he is stressed about uni, family problems, but his actions just not reasonable,and over the limit, I cant handle anymore.

 

I feel I don't want to be with him anymore, too much problems, and I think I deserve better than that.

 

thanks mary3 for your advises. I will talk, to him., maybe just email him.

 

 

-wing

[Mary3]

I would do this : "Hey Joe . Gosh ,I have been so busy so I won't be on MSN anymore much which gives you free time to **** around all you want on the internet ." Don'T bother messaging me Because I RELLY DONT HAVE THE TIME OR patience to deal with a pathetic loser who cares diddly squat about me .":(

 

So long

Debra:sick:

[Wing]

Thanks a lot mary3. Something like that. but I have to change it to my style hehe. Thanks. I want to end it. I feel good, that I am taking control of myself, and make decision for myself for the first time in this relationship. I have always been thinking about him first. Feel bit released that it finally got to the end. hehe.

 

-wing.

[Wing]

I just emailed him. and immediately, he send me a sms, said, he can not contact others on that site and others cant contact him, just can send each other "smile face". he do that because he has low self-esteem that make him depressed. ( he did mentioned that, he was hepressed two years ago and had to take medication, but only for a short period time, because a terrible accident he had experienced).

He did not explain anything about why he has been rude to me recently.

 

oh well, I guess I will not reply his sms.

 

-wing

[Mary3]

Sorry for my 2 am typos lol....I would stick with what you know is right. If something feels * off * about this guy then I would follow your instincts.

[summergirl]

Hi Wing,

 

You and I have pretty much the same problem (see my threads). The guys have too many excuses and changing attitudes, sometimes nice and other times completely don't care about us. We also have the same situation that one of us (my bf) is a foreigner in my country, I'm asian and he's half asian half white. So is this a culture problem? I don't think so, whatever culture it is he doesn't have the right to treat us like this.

 

It looks like that they try to brush off slowly, but we still deeply want them. I'm not sure should I move on now or later, I'm afraid I will get hurt even more, but I really hope things work between us.

[Wing]

Thanks for every one here on this forum, thanks for your opinions, and especially thank you mary3.'

 

Now, Summergirl. I decided to move on, and I suggest you to move on too. Sometimes, If you feel there is something wrong, you probably right.

I felt hurt, but there is nothing I can do. If there is no more connection, I don't want to hold on to that "girlfriend" title.

 

Move on, if he cares he will try his best to keep you, if he just let you go easily, it only shows how much you really mean to him. (this also apply to myself).

 

:-) Keep Smiling:-)

 

-wing

[SuperMonk]

Wing, I'm not going to be like the ladies here and sugarcoat my response here. But back off, you're sounding like a little desperate to get in a relationship with this guy. This is the most important message I'm going to convey to you: He is not interested in you.

 

Now leave him alone.

[SuperMonk]

What's up with the Asian women jocking for White boys. Gotta get that White boy, he's the modern trophy item!

 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asian_fetish

 

And Summergirl, try not to put men all in one category as some of us more mature guys have not put women all in one category as well. Duh, of course people from different cultures have more difficulty getting along. An experienced man will not "take it like it is" and accept any woman, he will assess the situation that is mutual for him and his woman.

[Wing]

Thanks SuperMonk, You are right, and yes, I am already back off now.:-)

-wing

[amaysngrace]

please someone give me some opinion, this is my first relationship, no experience , need help:-)

 

wing, now you've got me confused. you say this is your first relationship but didn't you just correspond with me on the thread "is he not into me?" by oy vay where you were complaining about your previous boyfriend lying to you? hmph...

[Wing]

no, the other one is not my boy friend, not even a good friens, Just a friend, and he wanted to be in a relationship with me, but I just wanted to be friend, so one day he told that he was sick, really really sick will die soon, he want to be with someone he love, before he got really sick, even if it was only a few months.

sorry confuse you.

--wing,

[amaysngrace]

oh okay...i misunderstood. it's late, i'm not thinking right. good night.