stephInDaDistrict Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Unfortunately, I have been the victim of players in the past. I live in a city where someone of the opposite sex is never hard to get, in fact if you want more than one, its easy to do. Beautiful people everywhere. Some with morals, some without. Sadly, women are condoning this "player" like behavior from these men. (everyones situation is different, I know, these are just the obvious) #1: Any man who parks his car around the corner from his house with you in the car, and you see him walk two blocks away has a woman in his house. #2: The "only call me after certain times" and "block your number" or "dont leave a message" dude has a female checking that bill. Especially if he asks you to call him from payphones, or vice versa. #3: If your mans cell phone contact list or buddy list looks like a copy of Picking Out a Name For Your New Baby Girl, you might have a problem. #4: If the only time you spend together is in Hotels and you both have homes to go to, and its not a fantasy, relaxation thing, he probably has someone at home waiting for when its check out time. #5: If he spends every waking moment, "recruiting" girls in chat rooms from your local area, ladies, he just may be a player or a pimp. #6: If he never asked you to come to his house for a holiday or if he has never introduced you to his parents,and their still alive, then your not his girlfriend. #7: If his middle console or glove compartment is filled with condoms, he's more than likely using them. Go ahead, count them one day, and count them again a week later, dont be surprised if they've been replaced by a completely different brand. #8: If he says he'll be home at 1am from being out with the boys and he comes home at 6am, jumps straight in the shower, for the past 6 months, every night, your an idiot. #9: If you continuously see him hit "ignore" for the same number over and over and over,on different occasions he's been talking to that person. No female is gonna just keep calling you if you dont even pick up the phone to talk to them for months every day. #10: If he says "SHH, dont say anything while I take this call, -oh hey baby......" or if he steps out of the room or goes into his car to talk on the phone, and does it often, and you know its not a co worker or business related, you already know what time it is. #11: If he wont take you out in public, to restaraunts, movies, walks, grocery store, etc. He's probably got other girls he doesnt want to see while he's with you. Especially if the whole relationship is based on sex, and he wants nothing more with you, and you want more and he knows it, your getting played. #12: If you have never spent an entire night sleeping in the same bed as your "man", cuz he keeps running out all night long....... #13: If he asks you never, ever, ever, ever, to speak of his name with anyone you know, even your girlfriends, he doesnt want anyone to know about you. #14: If you have never met or hung out with any of his male friends, then they know his girlfriend(s). :lmao: :lmao: Thats off the top of my head, I'll keep ya'll posted, thats nothing.
incognito Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Damn...I got burned on a couple of those <----- dumbass Lessons learned though
elijahBailey Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 #2: The "only call me after certain times" This is the ONLY one you need to look out for.
incognito Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Good points...just a tad obvious....?? ...except when you're blinded by love and the love of your life has all the best excuses and the love of your life could never ever do something like that to you!!!
SuperMonk Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I wouldn't follow completely or read into too much. Remember, womanly advice is never accurate or good, but based on emotional logic. That book "He's not really into you" is celebrated by many women, was written by a man. Remember that. And that book will let you know if the guy is serious or not seriousa bout you.
justagirliegirl Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I say just keep your panties on and most of this stuff you won't have to worry about.
incognito Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 I wouldn't follow completely or read into too much. Remember, womanly advice is never accurate or good, but based on emotional logic. That book "He's not really into you" is celebrated by many women, was written by a man. Remember that. And that book will let you know if the guy is serious or not seriousa bout you. Wicked wicked book. Also wicked, by the same authours, It's Called a Break up because it's Broken.
Raven1845 Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 #7: If his middle console or glove compartment is filled with condoms, he's more than likely using them. Go ahead, count them one day, and count them again a week later, dont be surprised if they've been replaced by a completely different brand. #9: If you continuously see him hit "ignore" for the same number over and over and over,on different occasions he's been talking to that person. No female is gonna just keep calling you if you dont even pick up the phone to talk to them for months every day. #7: He told me he had them in there, I never checked, Damn! #9: I'm a dumba** and needed to read this one. "Oh yeah, baby, I NEVER talk to her, she's just obsessed and won't leave me alone . . ." blah, blah, blah!
Groovy Posted February 14, 2006 Posted February 14, 2006 Take it slow and these things usually reveal themselves in the few months. By then you've seen his place, know where he works, who he hangs out with and he should be calling you just about very night. For some sleepovers happen and you get a good glimpse at them. And if you don't see some of these things after a few months, 6 tops, he probably isn't too interested in sharing his life anyway and needs to be ditched.
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