chattyone Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 Hello What if you were in love with someone who wasnt free? Not meaning he's happily married but meaning he cannot escape a crazed woman who will not give up nor ever let go, who abuses physically and mentally and yet he doesnt fight bk. Kids are wonderful but they are being poisoned and ruined thru their mother. Hes not in love w/her, he stayed too long only for his children in a lifeless marriage, though separated for a very long period. During this time our friendship evols, blossoms into a relationship. I thought this was it, I have been hurt so many times, now I met the man of my dreams. We had plans for a future, he couldnt live without me all the wonderful things he said and did. Now a couple years, yes years later here I sit and wonder what happened to this wonderful man? Why did he and continues to let this woman abuse him stop at nothing to make his life miserable. He is a changed man yet going thru the whole divorce process but she wont sign nor give up still. Financially its tough and getting tougher. He backed off for most of last year, here and now he's more distance than before, I understand he needs that therapist he needs to be free also of her, but is more and more distant towards me someone who all I did was love him and stand by him thru thick and thin, came to his rescue many times but I wanted to because I love him and he is a good man, now tells me to move on with my life. How is that possible Im a mess I cannot stop thinking of him and how upset this all feels I wake up hoping its a bad dream. Any thoughts please they are so welcome.
whichwayisup Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 Do what he's asking...If you both love eachother then it is the right thing to do right now. If it is meant to be, later in the future he'll find you. Seems right now his life is a mess and he isn't capable of being with you the way you deserve. If you need help to cope with this, talk to a therapist. If not, then keep busy, talk to your friends and family.
Author chattyone Posted February 13, 2006 Author Posted February 13, 2006 Thanks Whichwayis up! Good advice. Hope life is going better for you these days!!!
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