luvtoto Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 I'm sorry to say, but I have decided to bump my "Mr. Nice Guy" down to just friends status. Just getting bored with it all and have lost interest. We are gonna just stay friends (haven't exactly told him yet..cause I never see him!). So...I currently live in a town that has NO single men...(other than that guy. lol.) Actually, the first thing someone told me when I moved here was,"oh, you won't meet anyone in this town." That was 2.5 years ago. So...I am considering online dating. BUT....I'm not gonna make my profile visible. I think I'll just lurk around undercover and email a few prospects. I can't stand getting emails from men I have no interest in. So...next and last question...if you found an online soulmate, but they lived miles or maybe states away, would *You* relocate for your special person? I've heard it being done before. What's your take on this issue?
clandestinidad Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 First of all, I dont believe in online soulmates, and think thats pretty funny. But that said, If things were wonderful online, and through other distant communications, and we met and it went really well, yes I would relocate over a period of months seeing each other whenever possible. Some people will totally disagree with this, and thats normal, because its such a personal matter and people have very strong views about distant relationships. But, in MY opinion, if its gone so well after a while (LD and when in person), I would take the risk and move to see what else it would develop into.
Author luvtoto Posted February 11, 2006 Author Posted February 11, 2006 Yea, Kat, I agree soulmate is a funny term to use. I just spent an hour looking at a dating site and that word showed up *everywhere*. So, it was temporarily on my mind. Normally, I am more realistic.
curiousnycgirl Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 I met my b/f online and he lives roughly an hour and a half away from me - I know that doesn't really qualify as long distance, but it's not around the corner either. We've been dating for about 20 months. At the moment he is unemployed and interviewing for a new job just about anywhere that is hiring in his industry (meaning any state and/or country). We have discussed the fact the may move - and he knows I will not move to be dating - either we get married or we break up. I don't believe in uprooting my life for the sake of a b/f. On the other hand you've only lived where you are for 2.5 years, and you may be more mobile than I am. I guess the reality is to each their own - the above is just my personal beliefs for me.
konfuzd Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 Relocating for someone whether you meet online or anywere else puts a lot of pressure on a relationship. Your partner will be established in terms of friendships, hangouts and such. It's really tough to meet people in a new city, and when you're in a relationship, it can be even harder because you tend to latch onto that person for your social life. If it's really as hard as you say to meet people in the place your in, maybe consider relocating for a different reason. Seek out a career move or something to broaden the dating market, but I definately wouldn't move for one specific person.
Author luvtoto Posted February 11, 2006 Author Posted February 11, 2006 Relocating for someone whether you meet online or anywere else puts a lot of pressure on a relationship. Your partner will be established in terms of friendships, hangouts and such. It's really tough to meet people in a new city, and when you're in a relationship, it can be even harder because you tend to latch onto that person for your social life. If it's really as hard as you say to meet people in the place your in, maybe consider relocating for a different reason. Seek out a career move or something to broaden the dating market, but I definately wouldn't move for one specific person. I have considered that. People in bigger cities seem to be able to just pick and choose. It sucks!
Author luvtoto Posted February 12, 2006 Author Posted February 12, 2006 Shut the *blank* up! I can't believe this! Just did a search at yahoo personals (forthehellofit) and a guy that I have seen around town this past year (thought he was married!) has his profile posted. Couple other cuties, also. Actually, there are more single guys in this town than I thought. THANK GOD!!!
konfuzd Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Just because a guy has an internet dating profile, doesn't mean he's not married. Be careful. A friend of mine was contacted by her cousin's husband!!! What a shock it was when she showed up to their initial meeting with his wife!!!
stacylikes Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 I haven't really had much experience with online dating, so I'm not too sure if I'd relocate just to be with person, but it really would depend on the job/school situation I was in and how close I felt to the person (did I date them for a while, am I in love, do we have a future etc.). But congratulations on finding some single men in your area, maybe you won't have to worry about relocating at all.
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