newbby Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 This has been a very bad night for me sorry to hear that, i hope you are feeling better now?
silktricks Posted February 13, 2006 Posted February 13, 2006 sorry to hear that, i hope you are feeling better now? not really, no. thank-you.
Author dragonfish Posted February 14, 2006 Author Posted February 14, 2006 Yes, I understand you. I just don't agree with you. 1. You said in the original thread (I remember it) something like 'you were not privy to her thoughts' or something. You weren't friends. You just 'knew her' because you worked with her. You didn't know 'what she was planning'. What you wrote in your first post (as far as I remember it) goes against that. 2. Your actions should have been to keep out. None of your business. 3. You still don't know the whole story. You never will. 1. Actually I said I was not her confidant and therefore did not know if she set out to get this man BECAUSE he was married, or IN SPITE of the fact that he was married. I never said that I didn't know what she was planning. I stated many times that I DID know what she was planning as she bragged about it endlessly. 2. I disagree. I should have said something. If I should ever again be in that position, I most certainly will say something. 3. This is true. I don't know the whole story. I only know enough to know that I no longer need to feel guilty about doing nothing, and for that I'm grateful. The troubling thing to me on this board was the assumptions that were made about me. The amount of negative judgement that was directed at me was hurtful. I also have learned yet again that some people have difficulty understanding me, even though I believe I am being clear. I see that sometimes that is my issue, and my inability to communicate clearly, and other times it is not. What I personally will take away from this exchange is that I need to hold fast to what I find important regardless of what others think. I cannot take their (your) judgements as my own, because that will not work for me. I also want to express the fact that I never intended that my conscience (for want of a better word) is or even should be your own. But it is mine, and I will also add that I resent the fact that many people on this forum seem to believe that their judgement should - even must - be a universal judgement when it could be so detrimental to so many. I just re-read the last thing I typed, and I know it's going to be taken in a way I don't intend - but I'm not going to change it. Instead I'm going to let you all make whatever negative assumption you want about my character, my judgement, my opinions and my life. I'm tired of defending myself, and I'm tired of your assumption about me.
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