Is he lying?

[guest]

I'm going to try and keep this as simple as possible. So I was in a relationship with this guy for almost 2 years. We broke up and went our separate ways, dating other people. About 4 months ago we started hanging out and talking again after we both weren't in another relationship with someone else. anyways. things were going great until one night I looked in his phone and saw text messages from another girl about meeting up and stuff. I asked him about it and it was the girl he told me about before he and I started hanging out together. (they went on a few dates prior, but wasn't working out, so stayed friends) But they supposedly would still only meet up for lunch/dinner every other week or so while seeing me, but nothing ever happened between them. so anyways. I was upset because he never told me about her when from the very beginning I told him I want us to be honest with one another about everything, blah blah blah. So I felt like he kept her from me for a reason, like she was more than a friend. At the same time though, I can't be mad because I wasn't his official girlfriend at the time. Well now we're together officially again. But since then more stuff has happened:

-She kept texting him late at night after he supposedly told her not to, but she thought it was funny, so she didn't stop..now I think she has, not sure.

-He has called her babe

-before I was his official girlfriend, he'd tell her he missed her and couldn't wait to see her too.

-he wasn't answering his phone or responding to my text messages one night recently, so I drove around and found him in his truck with her alone, where they both work together just "talking". she's moving away with her boyfriend and was upset and scared about her, so they were talking about it.

-she gave him a sticker and wrote "I love you " and "Love-her name" on it, only he says it was a joke.

-Oh...and recently one night when we were out drinking and came home, he text her "I miss you baby. whatcha doing?" only he doesn't remember doing it because he was so drunk and says he may have been trying to send it to me, only I was with him that night. She never responded though which was good.

 

I keep trying to tell myself that if he wanted to be with her, he would and I know he spends all his time with me on the weekends and they only see eachother at work and they talk/text every other day it seems. Plus, she has a boyfriend who she's moving a few hours away with, so I shouldn't have anything to worry about. I guess she's been back with her boyfriend now for almost 2-3 months, so almost as long as me and my guy have been hanging out. There was maybe a good month in there where she wasn't with her boyfriend. He claims they're just really good close friends and he isn't interested in her like that. Although he has told me she has feelings for him, as well as her boyfriend, but when she realized it wasn't going to work between her and my guy, she saw how much she really loved her boyfriend. He says he didn't tell me about her because he didn't want me to think it was more than what it was, like I do now. I'm just having a hard time letting it go. I haven't seen anything suspicious like they are fooling around or anything like that. I guess I just don't like the situation. Like why did she have to give him a sticker saying she loved him, esp. when she knows he has a girlfriend and she has a boyfriend? And what kinds of things is he telling her as well that I don't know about? I just don't get it. Any input would be greatly appreciated. thanks!!!

-Fedup

[Guest]

hi, i'll be honest i didnt read your story lword for word its late and im tired,, but i will say this,, firstly block her number from his phone she will not be able to txt or phone, set up his phone in your name all you need is his pass word and name address,, phone his network eg:o2 t,mobile..do the above and set a new pass word up dont tell him any of this he'll never know ive done it to lots of people,, anyways..u then set up account on internet so u can view his call history and txt messages.. hope this has helped sometimes u have to be devious or they will walk all over u,, good luck xx jo.

[Tinman]

hi, i'll be honest i didnt read your story lword for word its late and im tired,, but i will say this,, firstly block her number from his phone she will not be able to txt or phone, set up his phone in your name all you need is his pass word and name address,, phone his network eg:o2 t,mobile..do the above and set a new pass word up dont tell him any of this he'll never know ive done it to lots of people,, anyways..u then set up account on internet so u can view his call history and txt messages.. hope this has helped sometimes u have to be devious or they will walk all over u,, good luck xx jo.

 

Wow, that is some genuine grade-A crazy psyco you're peddling there.

 

Now, to the OP. Yes, you're just being insecure. Yes, it's completely normal for you to be feeling insecure given what you've described. However, if you want a boyfriend you can trust, you pretty much have to go ahead and trust him until you have a good reason not to.

[whats wrong with me]

hi, i'll be honest i didnt read your story lword for word its late and im tired,, but i will say this,, firstly block her number from his phone she will not be able to txt or phone, set up his phone in your name all you need is his pass word and name address,, phone his network eg:o2 t,mobile..do the above and set a new pass word up dont tell him any of this he'll never know ive done it to lots of people,, anyways..u then set up account on internet so u can view his call history and txt messages.. hope this has helped sometimes u have to be devious or they will walk all over u,, good luck xx jo.

 

you could become my new best friend (i gotta guy that will pull dropped cell calls) just need a few more people and we could......