sassiex Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 ive been having an affair with mm for 5months now. i met in in a club and we connected immediately. i didnt have sex with him for nearly two months. so we got to know each other first. since then its just got better and better we get on so well, we have such a laugh and the sex is the best ive ever had!!he is really good to me and makes me feel like a princess , he good looking and i have fallen for him in a big way. he has no idea how i feel about him, and i have no intention of telling him. he phones me every day and texts me, i never call him. i am not proud of what im doing but i cant help it, i have never felt like this before.life is too short and he is the best thing that has happened to me in such a long time. am i wasting my time with this man , i think he loves me but im not sure. i dont even know if i want him to leave his wife and when he mentions it i usually say nothing.
bluechocolate Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 I am not proud of what im doing but i cant help it Of course you can 'help it', but you've chosen not to. am i wasting my time with this man That entirely depends on what your expectations are. i dont even know if i want him to leave his wife and when he mentions it i usually say nothing. Not exactly sure what your question is. If it is as the title suggests - Do You Think he Loves Me? - then my answer is no, I don't think he does. Then again, I don't think anyone can come to that conclusion after only 5 months of dating - and that's without a wife being involved.
newbby Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 sassiex, nobody can possibly tell you how your mm feels about you. however, i have heard before that there are ways of finding out, and definetly ways of maintaining self respect in the situation. first of all, as in any relationship, you need to really decide what you want from this relationship. dig deep with this one, and be very honest with yourself.
Sami_D Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Sassiex, I have no idea whether your MM loves you or not. I highly doubt it because as bluechocolate said, I it's very early days for that kind of feeling to emerge. Whatever he (or you) is feeling is something more like the initial phases of attraction and getting to know one another. I would suggest that you work out pretty quickly what it is you want from this relationship. The way it sounds, you're so uncertain... and you're just letting yourself drift into something that's going to be BIG TROUBLE and Plenty Heartache. That's the case, whether you feel it's true or not at this moment. I'm speaking from personal experience of drifting into an affair. It WILL hurt. You WILL feel trapped and powerless. You WILL do a lot of crying and wishing things were different. What I'd advise is walking right away from this right now, while you still can. If you feel you can't do that, then I suggest you ask MM exactly what his intentions are. And then, don't just take his word for it, but SEE if he's actually doing anything about this "ending his Marriage" stuff that he's brought up. Most don't, even if they (say they) want to.
Author sassiex Posted February 10, 2006 Author Posted February 10, 2006 just to say thanks for your words of wisdom......some of it good some not so good. i am not a bad person !! ive had a lot of heartache in my life and i deserve a little bit of happiness. mm and i have just had a long conversation and my question is answered,and thats enough for me at the moment......i will not pressure him i will let time decide x
rossi Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 just to say thanks for your words of wisdom......some of it good some not so good. i am not a bad person !! ive had a lot of heartache in my life and i deserve a little bit of happiness. mm and i have just had a long conversation and my question is answered,and thats enough for me at the moment......i will not pressure him i will let time decide x I would like to know how old are you. If you are in your 20's, you are so inmature to know what you really one. of course i know you are not bad person, every one in this world makes mystakes in one way or other, me for example, never cheat, never went out with marry men, but i had few abortions. See the picture, in this world every one has sometings to feel bad about it. I never though of having a abortion, but who knows. Let me tell you, marries men never leave their wives, if he really love you, to soon to know it, he will marry you. He may having good time with you or maybe realized or sees your needs because as you said about your sad life. Be carefull and take care yourself. Do you know for how long he has been married and how old is him? Men like to have fish every day, and one in a while eat meet to feel much better about themself. I'm 38 but my experiences are from a20 years old woman, maybe that why my husband cheat on me and i never see any clue, until finally god gave me one which drove me to the affair.
Touche Posted February 11, 2006 Posted February 11, 2006 "Men like to have fish every day, and one in a while eat meet to feel much better about themself." Huh???? Fish? What kind of fish? And what if he's a vegan? So confused:confused: Would he then want spiniach every day but want turnip greens sometimes to feel much better about himself? All kidding aside, that's false. Not all mean need "variety" in their diets. I'm sorry that has not been your experience but it's been mine.
lolax Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 im old enough thanx.....you dont know me!!! imnot a child and i have been through more than most go through in a life time!! i am 38 and my mm is 38 too!!! i love him dearly he is my soulmate and thats it and i dont give a flying **** because im pissed and ill get him cause im clever and nothing ever beats me , so ............................................................. dont be so harsh and so evil let me have something ....just him please !!!
Sami_D Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 lolax and sassiex, are you the same person or am I confused? If you're 38 you're not sounding like it. But if you're English (sassiex, Longon) maybe you were 'pissed' from alcohol rather than manhattan pissed. Whatever, I can't see this working out for you if your approach and mentality is 'please let me have him!' and 'I don't care'. Once in a while posters come on here talking about how they just started out with a MM and it's really, really painful and difficult and... then they just ignore everyone who says it's not going to get ANY better. Well, ignore it. But there's nothing except you waking up and either accepting it or walking away will make any difference to this.
No Stress Lady Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 im old enough thanx.....you dont know me!!! imnot a child and i have been through more than most go through in a life time!! i am 38 and my mm is 38 too!!! i love him dearly he is my soulmate and thats it and i dont give a flying **** because im pissed and ill get him cause im clever and nothing ever beats me , so ............................................................. dont be so harsh and so evil let me have something ....just him please !!! I'm assuming that you and sassiex are the same poster...... What you're walking into is an emotional sh*tstorm. You really don't sound very mature and I doubt you'll take anyones advice so remember you will only have yourself to blame when he's still married years down the road and you've wasted your time!!!! Also bear in mind that you're probably not his first OW and you probably won't be the last.
Touche Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 "Do you think he loves me?" Stop having sex with him and you'll have your answer.
lolax Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 "Do you think he loves mtop having sex with him and you'll have your answer. GOOD ONE!!!! NO SEX FOR YOU MR! BUT FOR HOW LONG SHOULD I NOT DO IT 4??? AND THIS WILL PROVE WHAT EXACTLY ? thank you x
Touche Posted February 12, 2006 Posted February 12, 2006 Just tell him that you just want to be his friend and you don't feel comfortable having sex until he's a single man. As far as what it will prove...well, I think he'll be out of your life so fast that it will make your head spin! And you will have the answer to your question, won't you?
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