consumed Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 As I mentioned in my pervious post I was seeing this girl briefly. On Wednesday I stayed over at her house. Now she doesn’t feel the butterflies with me and hanging out was given in limbo answers from her so I’m not even sure about anything. I got very mixed and dead end answer from the hrs we talked. Well this Saturday we were suppose to hang out at her house, it was a suggestion from her that I asked if was still on Wends when I slept over at her place. From what I got, she wasn’t sure and she said her mind might change, she might get into the mood to want to hang out. So here’s my question. Should I email her at some point today asking about tomorrow? As for phoning we talked about that and again from what I could make out she’ll phone me if she wants to hang out one day or gets in “the mood”. Any opinions? Thanks in advance. Also I'll note she thanked me Wendnesday but felt bad for taking advantage of me or so she put it because she hasn't been with a guy in years. That made my mind think wtf? So she got what she wanted and now wants her bookworm life back.
whichwayisup Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Something isn't quite right here...And I think the best thing you can do for youself is let her call or email you. She seems to have issues and may not be ready for something serious. If you do like her alot then just continue to be upfront and honest - Be yourself with her and don't hold back. She may open up more and let you know why she is the way she is.
Guest Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 I know alot of the reasons. She's 24 still a virgin, hasn't had a boyfriend in 2 yrs. We did some dryhumping as they call it, and messed around some last week and it was then she thanked me for getting that because it was something she had wanted for sometime. Just to be touched by another guy. Now, from what she says it seems she wants to go back to her life where she is comfortable with family and being her bookworm self again, just seeing guys at her friday staff get together. We talked for at least an hr in the car before she invited me in to stay over last week. Basically she said she didn't get the butterfly feeling me with and she felt she should be. For the friends thing, it's like everytime I asked her about where she wanted to go with things, I'd get a half answer or mixed answers. Nothing I could really get a yes or no for. I asked her about calling, getting together again. Last week we had planned to get together this weekend at her house. After last week, and the talks we had at her house after fooling aound, she didn't really seem excited about Saturday. She put it that if her mind changes she might ask me to come over, and if she gets in the mood. From what I could pick up about phoning, she seems to say she'll phone me whenever and if she sees me around then she'll hug me or whatever. I just don't get it. I mean ok, she might not have the butterfly feelings but ever she said she didn't want a relationship - more looking for friends with benefits, although she is still a virgin. I don't know. I'm wondering if I should e-mail her about saturday because I would love to get together with her again.
Author consumed Posted February 10, 2006 Author Posted February 10, 2006 I know alot of the reasons. She's 24 still a virgin, hasn't had a boyfriend in 2 yrs. We did some dryhumping as they call it, and messed around some last week and it was then she thanked me for getting that because it was something she had watned for sometime. Just to be touched by another guy. Now from what she says it seems she wants to go back to her life where she is comfertable with family and being her bookworm self again, just seeing guys at her friday staff get together. We talked for at least an hr in the car before she invited me in to stay over last week. Basically she said she didn't get the butterfly feeling me with and she felt she should be. For the friends thing, it's like everytime I asked her about where she wanted to go with things I'd get a half answer or mixed anwsers. Nothing I could really get a yes or no for. I asked her about calling, getting together again. Last week we had planned to get together this weekend at her house. After last week, and the talks we had at her house after fooling aound, she didn't really seem excited about saturday. She put it that if her mind changes she might ask me to come over, and if she gets in the mood. From what I could pick up about phoning, she seems to say she'll phone me whenever and if she sees me around then she'll hug me or whatever. I just don't get it. I mean ok she might not have the butterfly feelings, but even she said she didn't want a relationship, she was more looking for friends with benifits although she is still a virgin. I don't know. I'm wondering if I should email her about saturday because I would love to get together with her again.
CaliGuy Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Wait for her to initiate contact. It seems to me you're coming off a bit strong and if she said what you say she said, give her space. She's obviously confused and any attempts you make to change her mind will not be met with the results you want. You can be desireable by being a bit aloof and not so easy.
Guest Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 say she doesn't call or email between now and sat night. It might slip by and I lost an opportunity to hang out because I didn't initiate contact?
Author consumed Posted February 10, 2006 Author Posted February 10, 2006 Ok, well say I sent her an email abotu tomorrow, would it be a bad thing to ask if you still wanted the company and to throw in something like "I could be of some good company like the other night" ??
CaliGuy Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 No. No emails. Let her initiate contact. If you intiate it you will come off needy and clingy. Show your independence and confidence. If she doesn't want to be with you, other women will.
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