hollynikki123 Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 My parents have been married for 30 years and have always seemed happy. When i was 11 my mum and dad seperated because my dad was having an affair, and had a child with that women. This put me and my mum through hell but eventually my mum and dad ended up working things out and have been together since happily (or so i thought). My little sister has since been welcomed into our family, lives with us and sees her real mother often. Im now 20 and moved out of home with my boyfriend when i was 18. This caused alot of problems with my parents and our relationship as they were always very strict and i did this without their blessings. it has taken a long time for us to patch up our relationship and finally act like a family. I was at a resturant meeting my boyfriend, and i saw my father with a man eating dinner. i found this very odd because my father had declined the invitation to come with me to dinner due to a "business meeting at the office". i went to my parents house while no one was home and snooped around. i read a few of my dads emails. these were all from different men organising dates, times to meet each other to "have some fun". the requests were always to be "discreet, and purely sexual, because his wife doesnt know he is bisexual and is not telling" i do not no how long this has been going on, or what to do with this information. I do not have any other family so i cannot confide in anyone else. I do not know wether to ignore it, tell my mum or tell my dad i know... im scared of once again causing problems between our family and obviously this secret i have found will crush them. But i cannot go on carrying this around... and i cannot forgive my father or be near him until i hear the truth. Please any advise!!
ThatOneGuy Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Confrontation may weigh heavily upon your heart, but it is something that must be done. I say that you should confront your father about this first, tell him that you know what’s been going on, and that he should openly confess his sin’s to his “wife.” If he disagrees, tell her anyway. She doesn’t deserve to live in the fog of uncertainty anymore. Be strong. This isn’t an easy task, and will probably be filled with a lot of emotional roadblocks, but if you try to keep this devastating secret it will only eat you up inside. Good luck.
Guest Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Your father is putting your mothers life at risk!!! Confront him with what you know and tell him he must tell your mother immediately or you will. Then if he doesn't, take the proof you have to your mother.
Tangerina Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Snooping isn't cool, but now that you know I guess your mom deserves to know for her own health and safety....
whichwayisup Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 You should not have snooped, but now that you know I think you need to tell HIM that you suspect what is going on and let him know he needs to tell your mom (his wife) as he has put her health at risk.
bluechocolate Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81696/
POV Posted February 10, 2006 Posted February 10, 2006 Why do people always need to say everything? You could just leave the situation alone. You know it's definately going to screw up what you have now, so take that into consideration before you decide what to do. "Am I fat?" "No." Sometimes you do things to keep the peace.
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