Tired of feeling like crap.

[panzer6]

Met a woman 10 months ago, shes 35, twice divorced, lousy family relationship and has two boys from first marriage. We started out as friends, hung out alot, talked for hours, and slowly but surely we became more and more intimate with each other. We would cuddle on the couch but not have sex. I was taking it slow because I didn't want to screw things up with sex. She would say things to me like, " I usually dont let men get so close to me because I have been burned in the past". and she let me hang out with her boys as well which seemed to surprise her as well. Like I said I took it slow due to her past experiences with men. We would sleep together but not have sex, just hold each other. All this went on for about 4 months and then one night I decided it was time to go further in the relationship so I initiated sex and she was very responsive. I have been with a number of women but I have to say that this was the first time it ever really felt right. We seemed to have a very deep connection and after the first time we couldnt keep our hands off each other. I thought wow, I have a best friend and a lover all in one, how perfect. I love her two sons as well, they are awsome! But then i noticed things about her were changing. She began to be more and more critical of me, calling me names like dumbass and such. I would laugh it off and not let it bother me but deep down it did. She would talk about her emotional needs but never ask me about mine which I thought was odd. She would text me alot too and some times I would misunderstand her message and she would freak when I asked about it. After about six months of a relationship she finally dumped me. It's sad cuz it started out so good and we never had a single problem, it seemed so right for us to be together. She dumped me on New Years day but called me that night and we had sex twice that night. She told me that I was the best partner she has ever had but she wished that the rest of the relationship was that good. I have my issues as well to deal with but I always tried to make her happy. I care about her and her boys very much. Didnt see her for 3 weeks after that but she would text me or we would talk on the phone. We ran into each other and ended up going for coffee. Just mindless chit-chat, no relationship stuff. When we said goodbye we hugged and kissed, just like old times, very passionate so I think there may stil be a sexual thing there. she called me to wish me happy birthday on Friday last week and I asked her if she wanted to hang out, she said it was too late cuz she had to work the next day but I kept pressing her and she freaked out on me. I understand the concept of NC but it doesn't matter what I do either way, I stil feel like crap. Valentines is coming and I know she will call or text me but I will not respond. Im just tired of feeling like crap. Maybe we could still make it work but Im beginning to think she may have mental problems. In any case I will steer clear of her.

[pippen_2k]

She has been divorced twice, so it is more than likely she has issues she is not willing to accept.

 

She just palms it off to her ex husbands saying they burnt her.

 

Its takes two to tango and screw up a marriage.

 

This women dosent sound like much of a catch to me. She has baggage and issues she has to confront before she can get into a successful relationship.

 

If you can switch off and have no emotional ties with this women, sure, go ahead and be each others booty call. But soemthing is telling me this isnt the case.

 

Dont lose too much sleep over this one

[panzer6]

I agree with what you say, but i still care about her and her sons. I know she has issues but I still think she is a good person. Either way I will keep NC going for now.