half the time of the relationship to fully heal

[UT_longhorn]

i know many of us have heard that it takes half the time of the relationship to fully heal from it. what do you guys think of this observation? Any of you have any experience with it?

[notmakingsense]

I've heard this before also, but in my opinion, there isn't any guideline that can be universally applied. Heck, I can't even apply a general rule of thumb to myself! I got over my 7 year marriage in 2-3 months, but it took me 4-5 months to get over a 3-month relationship! My latest relationship lasted about 2 years, but I'm predicting it will take me at least a year to get over her.

 

It all depends on how deep the relationship was, how good (or not) you are feeling about yourself, and the amount of distractions in the form of work, family, new love-interests, etc. going on in your life at the time.

[Tangerina]

A lot of the time people check out emotionally long before it ends so it can seem that it took them no time to get over it, but really they've been getting over it for a while...

It took me about 5 months to really be over my 3 year relationship... He left me and it was hard but I quickly realized that he wasn't good for me and that I didn't really want him back, so then it was just a matter of getting the addiction out of my brain chemistry... I think th process was also faster because I met someone new.... I don't recommend doing this since it is easy to get hurt or hurt people, but luckily it worked out well in my case and I'm over my ex and with a great guy....

My ex on the other hand, he was the one that left and seemed to be over it right away but it turned out that was because he thought he could have me back whenever he wanted... then that turned out to not be the case and he realized that he had lost me and it hurt him that I met someone so it took him longer than me to get over it.... The good news is that you WILL GET OVER IT! That's just life, but it really does depend on the person and situation....