Ash03 Posted February 9, 2006 Posted February 9, 2006 I met this guy at work, we've been talking quite abit through text messages we've only talked twice on the phone and it wasn't even that long, anyway I've been to his house twice and both times he was all over me, kissing, dryhumping and everything else but sex, well the second time he asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I told him yes but when he got the condom out and put it on I changed my mind, he said he's not mad about it and he understands if I'm not ready but now (2 days later) he tells me he's not what I need or what I'm looking for, WHY?? and what makes him think he knows what I'm looking for?? do you think it's because I didn't have sex? He seems like a really nice guy.
TUDOR Posted February 9, 2006 Posted February 9, 2006 Sounds like he may think there are games being played and not in the mood for it. Some guys have very little patience and when you do all the heavy petting and then agree to sex and stop it is really frustrating. You are well within your right to stop if you aren't ready but just keep in mind he just got shot down after it being built up that he was about to get laid. So yes it is about the sex, but only because he felt the like the switch was getting flipped off and on more than he had the patience for. It also sounds like he was just looking for fun for now and not a relationship. If he sensed you wanted more which was an indication of you backing out at the last minute then maybe he walked away to save you the trouble of getting hurt. Don't be too hard on yourself about it, if you weren't ready, you weren't ready and there absolutely nothing wrong with that.
IrishCarBomb Posted February 9, 2006 Posted February 9, 2006 He doesn't want to date you. He's in it for the sex. Judging from your other posts.... isn't this what you want? To him, the sex rejection was "I can't have sex with him because I want to date him and if I give it up too quick he'll run away" When you probably were just having second thoughts about cheating. My advice? Go home, be a mom, be a girlfriend.
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