Anyways Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 My last relationship ended bc my ex just had too much pride and was too stubborn after a fight we had. Our decision was mutual bc he just seems to have too much pride and ego. He also would get mad about things that didn't need to go so far and he just really pushed it. He also said that he was unhappy most of the time lately and I asked why and he said he doesn't know. I said...if he doesn't know..then how can we get better. I told him that he stopped communicating the way used to and he said "we're communicating now"..but sometimes it is too late and you hurt me so much (this happened during the holidays). That got in the way of our communication and I just got fed up with trying...so...I just gave it the WHATEVER. When we used to fight and have problems, he would say "do you think we should break up?" I would say, "I don't want to bc I really care about you but if you want to leave and you're not happy...then I'll accept it." He always used to tell me that if the person really cares for him, they wouldn't let him go (like his last gf). I told him that I won't say that bc I don't want to force someone to stay with me if they don't want to be with me. Another time he brought up breaking up in the past, I just said, "fine..leave." And he said, "Is that it? You're not going to say anything else?" He got mad and told me to have a NICE LIFE!!! But we got back together a few hours later. I'm just so fed up with that immaturity and I feel like he shouldn't say that to someone you care about to test how much they care about you. I am not his ego booster and by saying that...he is making me feel that I'm not wanted and that I'm not a good gf and it just makes me not want him when I feel unwanted. Do men get over this somehow as they get older? Is that just a sign of being immature or do most men stay like that as they get older? Maybe it just depends? I think he's used to girls begging him and being clingy and calling him continuously when I'm not like that. I would call a few times, leave a few messages...if I get ignored and they don't make an effort...I just basically give it a **** it. I don't have time for games and that is just being childish to me. I really care about him and I miss him a lot and I do love him still. We broke up a little more than a month ago...we hung out a few times after that and we had a great time...just like one of our date nights. But during the last time, something just pissed me off and I was like...he really did change a bit and it is not going to work out bc of his attitude. He tried contacting me at work but I ignored his phone calls and he also texted me back explaining his side but I wrote back saying those are BS excuses and he just doesn't appreciate things anymore and that I just want to be happy and don't want this stress. He didn't reply after that. Now, we have had no contact for about 2 weeks and I miss him. I don't plan on contacting bc I just want to get over him already but I just wanted to see what you guys think? Am I being stupid? He's really a great man for the most part and I know he's not perfect but I feel that he doesn't know how to go to the ups and downs in a relationship and I don't think he's ready. If he can't handle our little fights and problems now...how can he handle the bigger ones that could test us and come in the way??? Am I doing the right thing? I just don't want to regret it and I don't want want to lose the best thing that has happened to me...he really was but I just don't want the stress and I just want to be happy.
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