JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Ok, my husband works just a little ways down from where my daughter takes dance. So last night I took my daughter to dance she goes from 6-7. I left my cell in the car, and when me and my son went out to get it after taking daughter inside to dance, I saw where hubby had called at like 6:05. I called him back to tell him me and our son were going right down the road to grab a bite to eat, and if he was off work already or had just got off work to come join us if he liked too. He said ok, and would be there shortly. He tells me he just got off work at 6 pm. So son and I go ahead and get a table and and wait on hubby. He finally gets there around 6:30. We order and eat, etc, time passes and its time for me to run back down the road to get our daughter. I was done eating, but hubby and son wasn't, so I told them to finish up and I would go get her. Before I left I gave hubby a 20 dollar bill. I didn't know if he had any cash on him or not. I placed a to go order for daughter so she would have something when we got home. Tuesdays are our busy day. Ok moving forward, we get home, hubby tells me thanks for the 20 dollars I gave him cuz he had only 5 dollars on him and the total was 22 dollars and something. I said no problem. However there was something odd when he said he only had a 5. Later when he got in the shower, I looked found a receit from where he got out 40 dollars, at 6:15 pm. Now remember he called me at 6:05 saying he just got off, met us for dinner at 6:30. So he got that money out before he ever came to eat with us. It gets better, not only did he get out 40 dollars, but it was from a ATM half way across town. He works right down from where daughter takes dance, and theres a bank, our bank as a matter of fact he could have gotten money there, not half way across town. Come to find out, I look at his time that he clocked out from work, he keeps track of that so he writes down the time he clocks in and out of work. Remember he told me he got off at 6pm, according to his time clock it said 5:27. Now, theres not a whole lot of time there inbetween when he got off and calling me at 6:05 for dinner, but it was enough time that he was halfway across town at another ATM machine to get out money. BTW, our banks ATM machine was working, because I had gotten a little money out prior to him calling me, so hope he doesn't use that excuse that it wasn't working cuz that wont fly. I simply do not get it. Why lie? Why lie about what time he got off? Why point blank lie when he got home and told me thanks for the 20 to help pay dinner and that he ahd nothing but a 5, when he had 40 dollars. I don't care that he had 40 dollars, thats fine. I don';t care that he got off work at 5:27, what I do care about is why lie? I have never said anything to him before about what time he gets off, or what money he gets out etc. I mean why? why lie? It served no real purpose. He got what from it? Ok done venting, should have put it in personal rants I guess. Sheesh sorry it got long! Jade
tanbark813 Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 That's weird. The lying is a bad sign (obviously) but at least you know it couldn't have been drugs or a prostitute if it was only $35 he spent.
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 That's weird. The lying is a bad sign (obviously) but at least you know it couldn't have been drugs or a prostitute if it was only $35 he spent. What are you talking about? LOL:laugh: He didn't spend 35 dollars. He told me he only had 5 dollars. I gave him a 20 dollar bill, to helpcover dinner so he had a total of 25 dollars. Food ended up being 22 something. He had 40 dollars in his wallet when we got home. But that 40 dollars he got out the ATM before he ever came to eat. Saying he only had 5. Jade
butterflygurl929 Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Jade the lying is a bad thing. What agenda does he have to lie ? Why can't he just tell you he had the money? My bf use the atm alot and drives me crazy .. Is he taking alot of money out at one time and you are wondering what he does with it. Have you ever said something to him about taking out money?
tanbark813 Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 What are you talking about? LOL:laugh: He didn't spend 35 dollars. He told me he only had 5 dollars. I gave him a 20 dollar bill, to helpcover dinner so he had a total of 25 dollars. Food ended up being 22 something. He had 40 dollars in his wallet when we got home. But that 40 dollars he got out the ATM before he ever came to eat. Saying he only had 5. Ohhhhh.. I thought he withdrew 40 and only had 5 left when you gave him the 20. I thought you just found ONLY the receipt, not the money also. Sorry. That's what I get for skimming the post.
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 Ohhhhh.. I thought he withdrew 40 and only had 5 left when you gave him the 20. I thought you just found ONLY the receipt, not the money also. Sorry. That's what I get for skimming the post. LOL no problem tan. I have done that myself before. butterflygurl, I haven't said anything to him before about money or time he gets off. So not sure why he would feel the need to lie. It was really pointless. Jade
a4a Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Well Jade just ask him, easy way to get out of the snoopy snoop is to say you noticed a withdrawl on the acct. Do you have online access to your bank acct? If so show it to him, and ask him WTF? somebody ripped us off honey! See if he comes clean.. maybe he needed for lunch or gas or something for the rest of the week. Perhaps he was not really paying attention to his clock out time...... or maybe he was valentines shopping for you but did not really find what he wanted to get you? But the only way to really know is to ask...... either straight out and let him know you went through his wallet....... or sneaky like without being busted as a snoopy snoop. a4a- needs a white cane soon
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 True a4a, I will ask him about it. Yes we have access to online back account. LOL I like the part about "somebody ripped us off honey." He may have needed it for lunch for the rest of the week which is fine, I have no problem with that, but for that matter he could have just said that instead of saying he didn't have any money. Like I said I don't care that he gets money out for things he needs lunch,gas etc. I don't have a problem with what time he gets off either, but see the fact is I didn't even ask him what time he got off. He told me 6 on his on and then time cards says something different. Maybe to a man 5:27 is the same time or really close to the same time as 6pm. Like I said it wasn't that big a time difference, but to go halfway across town to get money out was pretty ridiculas. Jade
Becoming Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 It's the lying that's the problem, right? Could be something like Valentine's Day. Does he lie other times?
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 It's the lying that's the problem, right? Could be something like Valentine's Day. Does he lie other times? He went Valentines shopping last week. I know this for a fact because, I went out to roll his windows up on his car the other day, and saw my Valentines present half way out from under the seat. This was the same day he told me he was going Valentines shopping, so that adds up. Becoming yes its the lying that I don't understand. He has lied about other things before, and yes some are minor, some are not. I'll give you two other examples, of lying. He is a memeber of a body building forum. He makes posts about workout programs etc, and all kinds of stuff, which is fine. I go on there myself sometimes to look at what others say about working out for women etc. Anyway I saw where he made a post asking a question about working out, eating right etc. He tells these people he works out 4 times a week. Thats a lie, no he doesn't. He is lucky if he works out 4 times a month. He knows this, its not that he doesn't have time to go, he just doesn't. But my thing is, if he knows he doesn't go 4 times a week, why lie and tell them he does? They didn't ask him how many times he worked out, he makes a post and tells them this. Another time was when we both agreed to stop out habits. I stopped smoking he was supossed to stop chewing tobacoo. This was years ago. I stopped, for myself and him because it was the deal/agreement that we would both start to live a better/healthier life. Come to find out he never stopped chewing tobacco which was fine, that was his choice. But he lied and said he did stop, I found out from a friend of his he worked with he was chewing it at work. I was just reading an article on passive agressive behavior. Which my counselor is helping me to learn a little bit more about, becasue he seems to think my husband is passive agressive and that he even displays some active agressive behavior, which i'm not real sure what that is, but as I was looking it did say, SOME people whith passive agressive behavior, are usually involved in lying, fibbing, and omitting information. Jade
alphamale Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 but at least you know it couldn't have been drugs or a prostitute if it was only $35 he spent. I dont' know TB813, he could have found a decent BJ for $35 or $40
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 I dont' know TB813, he could have found a decent BJ for $35 or $40 Wow! thats so encouraging alpha! Must have been a lousy one for 35 dollars, I guess.
tanbark813 Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Wow! thats so encouraging alpha! Must have been a lousy one for 35 dollars, I guess. Yeah, that's crack whore pricing. At least he's frugal.
a4a Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 I dont' know TB813, he could have found a decent BJ for $35 or $40 and just how would you know that lil bit of info Alpha?
butterflygurl929 Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 I dont' know TB813, he could have found a decent BJ for $35 or $40
Author JadeStar Posted February 8, 2006 Author Posted February 8, 2006 Yeah, that's crack whore pricing. At least he's frugal. Hmmm? Explains why he went half way across town to get money out a ATM machine then instead of right down the road. Jade
a4a Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Maybe the crack whore has her own card swiper thing......one could only imagine where she would keep it on her person?? Perhaps he got change back from her..... I would check the total amount missing from the acct.
cal gal Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 JadeStar, I wouldn't say ONE thing! Trail his money and time and actions for a period of time if you have ANY suspicions about anything! It could be nothing or it could be something. Do your homework first - otherwise he will cover it up better and it becomes more difficult to find out the real truth, whether or not there is anything to be worried about! In the meantime - lay low - and pretend like everything is just peachy!
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