BeFree Posted February 16, 2006 Posted February 16, 2006 Tang. Don't worry about posting the email he wrote. that email is really cute. Isn't it funny how easily they come around when we just let them come to us. I was a little too clingy this week to Tony and he got distant. The minute I backed off he started calling again. They are so simple. Nur, glad to hear things are balancing out for you. Did you read the book? If not you may want to, it may help you work out the balance stuff. Hope you girls have a good rest of the week. My mom will be here tomorrow and then I will be visiting Tony over the weekend. Probably won't have time to go on LS.
Walk Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 Nur... just wanted to say it sounds like you really have your stuff together. Made me smile reading what you had to say. Like, wow... these women have their shyt together. I really didn't mean for my prior post to come off as negatively as it must've sounded. Guess I'm not wording things very well... But I know that some people don't look for inner happiness like you did, but ways to hurt their SO, get back at them. Too many people use the excuse of finding their own happiness to hurt the other. I'm really glad you didn't do that, and aren't like that. Makes me believe in human decency again. Thanks. You sound incredibly balanced, or at least very well on your way to that state.
Author Nur Posted February 17, 2006 Author Posted February 17, 2006 Thanks Walk, that's really nice to hear. It gave me a big boost of confidence in my idea. I'm still tweaking it, but I think it's working nicely so far. The people I've been striving to spend more time with are worthwhile and enjoyable, and it's nice to be able to sort of disperse this social "need" among other people, and not concentrate it on one. Of course, there are days when everyone's busy, like today, but that's okay. I got my homework taken care of, did a bit of shopping, cleaned out my dorm, finished writing a short story I'd been working on, made plans to see a movie next week, and went to dinner with my roommate. My boyfriend even called in the late afternoon, so I talked to him for a while. That was nice, but it was sweet and unexpected -- I wasn't sitting around grumpy for forty-five minutes wondering why he wasn't calling. It was just sort of a day-brightener. We're looking forward to seeing each other tomorrow. So today was a nice day. I think I am starting to get the hang of this, and wonder why I haven't tried it sooner. I think I was still shy, and getting used to college life. Now that I have some friends, and relaxed a bit, it's easier to be social. Also, it's easy to meet people because friends of friends automatically become friends! Well, this is a good omen for future college life. I am already starting to enjoy myself and have fun, and I know that in a few weeks (if I keep striving for it) I will have found a truly happy balance between homework, social activities, and time with my boyfriend. I was never very social in high school, but I think I am learning fast -- and it's fun.
Tangerina Posted February 17, 2006 Posted February 17, 2006 HAHA, way to go!!! Your post made me smile... And it made me think how much I appreciate my friends too... yay, knitting club is coming over in 30 and we are gonna watch Wallace and Gromet... You just made me think about how my ex was sooooooo jealous of my social life and the coolness of my life in general... he was jealous that I was training to run a marathon, that I was going to college, that I have friends... it made him resent me... it is really nice to be with a man who sees these things as my assets and praises me for them... having your own life rocks... especially if your SO doesn't resent you for it, haha.....
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