Iona Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Firstly, hello everyone I've been with my girlfriend for about 4 years now. Things were going great until we went to different universities. We only see each other every other weekend. It was her birthday today. We had plans to meet up for dinner tomorrow but I cancelled (basically she was coming to our city for dinner, going back, then coming back a few days later with her mates for another birthday treat. I cancelled because I didn't want her paying out even more money. poor students and that ). Only I've been feeling really bad that I couldn't be with her. Ideally I wanted to drop her mates, bad as that sounds she does spend every day with them and has already been out twice for her birthday treat. That way she'd only have to pay to come here once. I'm really worried though. I feel so terrible that I wont see her till a whole 7 days after her birthday. Is this right? She says I'm being stupid. but I really wanted to treat her. I said she needs to find somebody local but she says she only wants me. I just feel she deserves someone better, even if that person does drive her deeper into student debt. We have both been at university for 2 years now so I suppose we can handle. but its so difficult. I'm constantly feeling empty inside. she knows this but she just says "theres nothing I can do", which is right. What would you suggest? cheers.
d'Arthez Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Try to hold on, if you are happy with the relationship (except for the distance part). I have no clue about the distances involved, so, the following suggestions may not apply at all. * Is it possible for either of you to switch universities? Or after either of you has completed a certain amount of the education? * Can one of you moving away for a bit in the direction of the other, in case that person barely has classes to attend? If you shorten the distance it might be easier to come over if one of you has a bit of time off. Assuming the cost of travelling is not a problem. * Perhaps even move in together, if circumstances money, and personal beliefs allow for that? Again, I am assuming it would be a relatively short commute both ways. * Even though you are not always physically together, it does not mean that you can't spend time together in other ways. IM, phonecalls, can get frustrating, but if used creatively can also deepen the relationship you have. It is hard, but there may be ways to make things a bit easier on the two of you. Try to look for those, and discuss these with your girlfriend. As for not being able to treat her properly for her birthday, don't worry too much about it. She not making a fuss about it, and you can treat her a bit when you next speak to her.
BeFree Posted February 8, 2006 Posted February 8, 2006 Stop telling us, and start telling her. What you said is so sweet. Tell her how you feel, that you feel bad she is away from you on her birthday. That you want her to save her money, that you wish she would leave her friends behind. TELL HER!!!
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