LexiB Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 Good News first: after nearly 2 years, I'm finally posting a story about myself, yay! (haha, sorry about that ) Bad News? Everything else. Ok, there's this guy at work who I've been attracted to for a while now (little over a month). I've been at my job for a year now and we've always said "hi" to each other when we passed but that's it, no real conversation...that is, until a few weeks ago. A co-worker was trying to organize an after-work get-together for a couple of us "younger folk" and he and I were finally introduced in the process. Since then it's been nontsop: he comes by my desk about 5 or 6 times a day to talk (he and I work in different departments on completely opposite sides of the floor and he could easily get to whereever he has to go without even passing me if he wanted to). And each time he always stays at least 20 minutes. We're both on Myspace so i asked him to send me his link via office mail and instead he wrote out his email address and phone number for me. Later on he asked me for my AIM sn too. All of our conversations are great, we stay on the phone for hours and have had lunch togehter a few times. On top of all this, he's almost exactly what I look for in a guy. I say almost b/c there's still more about him I want to find out but of what I do know and what I see, he's it. This would seem promising right? Here's the problem: He's never asked me out:o I mean it's been almost two months now since all of this started and he's become INCREASINGLY flirtatious every time we talk (not at all sleezy though, he's funny) but still no date. My friend (another co-worker) has been trying to hel me figure him out and is just as confused as I am. I normally would have said, "screw it" by now, he's "not that in to me" or whatever but, why keep calling? Why keep coming by? Why flirt with me for hours every single day? Seems like he ups the intensity every time he sees me. Aside from him the only guys that call me this much are my close friends who I've known for years ~ and none of them started out with this much energy unless they had other intentions... But anyway, back to the reason I feel like sh*t today. Last night he called me around 11pm. Good convo ~ like always he "joked" (?) about how much he liked me and whatnot. Then somehow we started talking about how we act when we're around someone we're interested in. I told him I usually clam up (true) and he said that there's only two people he get's like that with. One is his boss (for work reasons) But the other I had to drag out of him. He didn't wanna tell me who it was at first but eventually told me it was this girl that sits downstairs.. Then since it was out and we were already on the topic, he told me that he had "wanted to ask her out for a while" but just couldn't work up the nerve and "can't hold a convo with her for more than 30 seconds", etc. I haven't seen her but I'm guessing she must be stunning ( ) or cld just be the fact that she's from a well-off family (the niece of one of the head partners) and that's why he's intimidated by her. Whatever. In any event, my ego is pretty much shot at this point. Can't believe I put so much energy into a guy who apparently was really going after another girl the whole time (months before we ever met actually). His actions still dont add up to me though. Should I just shrug off all the attention he's given me as typical guy behavior? To save my sanity, I'm really trying to but I just had hopes for this one....I dunno. I'm torn between the whole, "if he liked you he would have done something about it already" attitude and all the zillions of "but then why does he..." questions that keep flickering through my mind. Seriously, ANY attempts to clear this up are welcome. I guess it boils down to the question of whether I should give this one up or hold out hope? Take action or let things happen on their own? Thanks in Advance Guys Lexi
sami Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 You need to relax. Take it one step at a time. If he;s really interested in you beyond normal friendship he will bring up. Also keep your emotional distance just in case. Play cool at the moment.
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