roxy_1980 Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 I've been seeing a guy for about a month now. He always asks for the date, but never makes the first move on the date. When we go out or stay in and watch movies, I always have to start the lean in for the kiss. He's into it when we're kissing but doesn't initiate anything. He's pretty outgoing, so I don't think he's shy. Any thoughts?
niko1999 Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 He may be afraid. Simple as that. Afraid of rejection. That maybe if he makes the first move, youll say no, and he wil be crushed. I would ask him.
El D4nt3 Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 Someone can still be outgoing but confused on when the right moment is. Maybe he is overthinking. Try to get him to relax when you are with him.
mrB2006 Posted February 7, 2006 Posted February 7, 2006 I agree with replies so far. I was in a similar situation. I was 'seeing' my friend for months, but was too chicken to make a move....gosh, I really liked her, but could never muster enough courage to make a move. I was worried that I would mess up the move or get rejected. In the end, she told me that I 'doubt' myself too much. I think that she was right..I have a very analytical mind. I tended to overthink about things. And from her replies to my 'love letters', I could tell that I had a chance, but blew it. She thought that I wasnt' interested in her. Boy, was she wrong. --We still are friends, but the whole romance thing will more than likely never happen. Now, I also agree that you should ask him about your relationship. Don't be too pushy. Just start a discussion. Is he 'brainy'? If so, then a discussion would be fantastic. MrB
Author roxy_1980 Posted February 7, 2006 Author Posted February 7, 2006 Don't get me wrong. We kiss. I know how he feels. He tells me. I just find it weird that he doesn't initiate anything. I'm into the whole modern woman thing and willing to start things myself, it would just be nice to have him start it sometimes.
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