aviva_dawn Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 I'm sure that most of you had read the thread on the "Getting Married" board about my rush to the altar with anyone/thing that took breath. I posted my final post to that board over here so that you guys would know that I've finally figured out what's really going on.....that I definitely do not want to get married. I put the following personals ad up on my local craigslist.org Hello, I'm 22, a resident of Riverside, California and I'm interested in meeting a man with intelligence, who likes books as much as I do,and who can speak his mind and not be too shy to tell me if he doesn't exactly see eye to eye with me. I'm not looking for a man who wants a girlfriend or a fling. I am looking for someone who knows his own mind and is looking for the right woman to settle down with and marry. I'm not picky about age or weight or other superficial things. I'm 5'7, 170 pounds. I enjoy figure skating, reading, creative writing, cooking, baking, meeting new people, traveling, and being a good friend to all. I have never been married and have no children. I do not smoke,but do drink socially. I like myself as I am. I wear glasses so that I can see better, my hair is normally in a loose version of a ballet bun. My skin is the color of hot chocolate with a marshmallow added. I talk everyone's ear off, am high energy to the hilt. I like to read. I love 1940's and '50 films, especially those starring Judy Garland and Ann Miller. I believe that we as humans should treat one another with nothing other than kindness. I tried to run my own tutoring business, but clients were hard to find..... I've also worked in a copy shop, as a telemarketer, as a Hotel Operator, in the California Conservation Corps by the shores of Lake Tahoe and also as a cashier at Target and other stores. Currently, I'm a student at Riverside Community College. I believe that no matter how bad things may seem now, there is always sunshine around the corner.....that gives me most of my self confidence. If I could change anything about myself, I'd not let my mouth run faster than the thoughts in my mind. I dislike people who knowingly lie, cheat or steal. If they do it with the idea of hurting someone one else, that makes it worse. I love going to Lake Tahoe on the Nevada/California border. It is one of the few places where I truly feel at home and at peace. Just one look at the clear and calm water of the lake and I find myself escaping to a pleasant, peaceful place in my mind. I like to hike, but I've never shown much aptitude for sports. Watching them is a different story. I like to watch Football (as in Soccer, not the reason for the Super Bowl....)Figure Skating, Tennis, Swimming....and even Rodeo. (As in bulls bucking their riders off....) I like all music. I like rap, R&B and Hip-Hop less than other genres, but I like all music. My favorite musician is Enya.I'm a Judy Garland fanatic. My favorite band is Green Day. I've been to a Red Hot Chili Peppers Concert and I also went to Celine Dion's Show, "A New Day...." not long after it opened in Las Vegas in 2003. So, that's all that I have to say about myself. If you're interested in meeting me and are looking for a wife who would be your lifelong companion, send me an e-mail, tell me about yourself and we'll set up a time to meet. ---------------------- Lo and behold....that very night, I recieved a response. Actually, I recieved 20! This is one of them. Hello! Iam a succesful real estate agent in san diego. I am 28 half black and white, you can see my picture on my website below. But just in case it’s http:// a url for his business … I love the outdoors such as cycling and golfing… or hanging out at the beach just to relax.. I am very energetic and very positive… you can’t worry about tomorrow because it’s past, and you can’t worry about tomorrow because it hasn’t come yet… all you can do is worry about todayJ I laugh allot, and love to have fun! I am looking for someone who enjoys life and doesn’t worry or get stressed out… someone who wants to have kids right away… I would love to have 2 or 3 kids… I love kids so much! I would love for my wife to be a stay at home if she wants, or to what she wants to do. I am a Christian, but I am not religious.. but God is very important to me… I am nothing with out him. I love to talk, not write emails as much… so if your interested call me… my info is below. I will be looking at homes in the riverside county area on Monday.. so if you want to hook up for lunch let me know.. Talk to you soon… ----------------------- I wanted time to think it over so I didn't respond. Then he sent another e-mail saying that if I was interested to contact him. I decided to call him right then and there. We talked and talked. I think that he is quite good looking, and successful. Also very nice and has a good sense of humor. Then when I talked emphatically that I wanted to have no sex or shacking up before marriage, he said that I was definitely the kind of woman that he'd like to marry. He wants to get married in MARCH and wants to start trying for a child right away, preferrably for me to get pregnant immediately and have a child before the end of the year. I guess that I just recieved a horrible taste of my own medicine because I am not enthusiastic about marrying NOW as he is and I think that he is pushing too hard. He also wanted to get married either at the courthouse or in Vegas.....which I knew deep down that I didn't want. Dangit, I don't even know who this guy is and I certainly don't love him. I'm serious, I don't think that I want to get married for at least 10 years, probably even more......this just frightened me to death! I'd like a wedding where my friends and family could go to to celebrate the beginning of our lives together, not to run off with a man that I'd only knew for a month, or even possibly less and not have my family and closest friends surrounding me as I make the most drastic change of my life. He's going to call later and I'm just going to tell him that I think that he is going too fast and I don't think that I even want to pursue a relationship with him at all. Now, I know that there is a G-d somewhere because I wouldn't be surprised if this happening was a way to show me that the idea of marriage is not something to be taken lightly or obsessed over. I know that my "wedding bug" has been officially cured. Just the idea of a marriage isn't what I need and isn't what I want is firmly implanted in my head.
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