Zeppelin456 Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 I'm going through my first horrible breakup...I told my story in another post entitled "The Horrible Feeling" although my situation isn't really necessary to understand my question. What I really want to know is, how is it possible to ever really fall back in love again after you've been dumped, rejected, kicked to the curb once before? I can't ever picture myself really being able to GIVE myself to somebody else again. I guess, time really does heal things and I suppose my outlook may be different in weeks, months, years, but honestly, I feel like to be able to truly fall in love is just something naive. You know, how could I ever run my hair through somebody's hair again or tell them they mean the world to me and TRULY mean it again, knowing that the likelihood is, it will end up amounting to nothing, like this?
fooled Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 Because with any luck, someone will prove to you that they deserve you.
AltplanB Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 Think of it this way. If you can fall in love once, you can do it again. This person was not your soulmate. If they were, they would still be with you. That means you can fall in love again. Yea your not gonna fall in love right away, but after you get over this person. It really depends on how long it takes for you to get over it. It could be months to maybe a year. It just depends on the length of the relationship and what kind of person you are. Just remember, if it happened once, it can and will happen again. Love is not a fluke...its something that hits you like lighting...and lighting strikes all the time. Just got to be in the right place at the right time.
WeaknPowerless Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 That hurt you feel; we have all felt it. Some of us are still feeling it. Devastation, confusion, anger, sadness...it'll all hit you. It's been 2 months for me and I feel like I don't want someone new. I'm 25, young, have great family and friends, my health, etc...but all I can think about is that gorgeous ray of light that I commited myself to. Emotionally, you shouldn't need to think about someone new right now...it shows how much you cared for her. But pretty soon, your head will start to turn when that cute blonde walks by. Someone will flash you a smile and you get a little fuzzy feeling. Hell, a guy made a pass at me at a club this weekend, even that felt good. What I'm saying is, is it'll just happen. I'm not "there" yet either, but slowly, with the help of NC, I'm getting back to being human again. And it's starting to feel good. The great thing to know is, is that love you felt, and that sadness you felt when she left, is that someone out there is going to give you the same love you gave, and she'll never want you to let her go. So if you're lucky, you'll both find each other and no one would ever let go.
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