Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 I have no problem going in there and I wouldnt think twice if it was a friends choice of venue. He means nothing to me now and it feels so good!
lilmoma1973 Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 why should she avoid going there if she is over him? Exactly why should she avoid places that he is at because it will make him think she is still liking him..This is the best way to make him see that she has moved on !!! Alpha you should be supporting Lishy not downing her... Don't listen to Alpha you have made a huge accomplishment and we are all proud of you!!!
whichwayisup Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 You know alpha loves everybody here, (well, give or take afew...) and he just loves to play the devil's advocate and get reaction...
cygny Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Lishy i think that is the true test of being over someone--that you can go to where you know he will be and be unaffected. OTOH avoiding that place would indicate that he still meant something to you. When i am over someone i don't even care whether they will be there. 1
noclobber Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 why should she avoid going there if she is over him? because i think it will look like she is deliberately doing it.... now i am not saying that Lishy should never ever go to that club, ever again. i am just saying that if she avoids going there more often it will do her a world of good. it will help her to move on and find someone else more quickly. just my 2 cents.
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 That is exactly how I feel - When I was really missing him I could not even consider going into the club he works at! The fact that I dont care and the fact that I can hear about him with another girl and not care speaks volumes to me. If I had heard that a month ago I would have been on here crying about it and losing sleep. And the fact that he text me and I have NO inclination to reply is so damn wicked I feel liberated! Maybe this is how he felt about me and that was why it was so easy for him to ignore my texts! The fact that he was apparently with another girl and still looking at me also lets me know that he still likes me and that makes me feel good because now he can feel how I felt and I can feel NOTHING! Now I am ready to move on to another guy - I just need to find one that I connect with 1
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 Clobsy baby - I know what you are saying darling and last week I was worried that he would think I was there to see him - But now I really do not care what he thinks! Like he did not care what I thought when he was driving past here 5 times a day! I will go where I want - I live in the heart of London so there are so many places for me to go and his club is not one I would go out of my way to go to. But if it is where my friends are going then I will go and not care what he thinks!
noclobber Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Clobsy baby - I know what you are saying darling and last week I was worried that he would think I was there to see him - But now I really do not care what he thinks! Like he did not care what I thought when he was driving past here 5 times a day! I will go where I want - I live in the heart of London so there are so many places for me to go and his club is not one I would go out of my way to go to. But if it is where my friends are going then I will go and not care what he thinks! This is awesome As long you are free from those nagging feelings and really having fun you shouldn't give a rats a$$ about which club you are going to! I was just concerned about Mr.Driveby's presence and its potential impact on you. But from your posts its damn clear that he has zero effect on you. That's frickin awesome!! I am so proud of you!!! From your previous post: The fact that I dont care and the fact that I can hear about him with another girl and not care speaks volumes to me. That was the real test and you have passed it with an A grade. You rock!! 1
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 Thank you Clobsy you have been a great help to me honey!
noclobber Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Thank you Clobsy you have been a great help to me honey! Anytime
cygny Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 That is exactly how I feel - When I was really missing him I could not even consider going into the club he works at! The fact that I dont care and the fact that I can hear about him with another girl and not care speaks volumes to me. If I had heard that a month ago I would have been on here crying about it and losing sleep. And the fact that he text me and I have NO inclination to reply is so damn wicked I feel liberated! Maybe this is how he felt about me and that was why it was so easy for him to ignore my texts! The fact that he was apparently with another girl and still looking at me also lets me know that he still likes me and that makes me feel good because now he can feel how I felt and I can feel NOTHING! Now I am ready to move on to another guy - I just need to find one that I connect with oh i so envy you that feeling of freedom and liberation. i still think about my crush too many times a day. to be able to have an invitation to reply and feel the *power* that you don't care, must be exhilarating after this emotional servitude...
cygny Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Clobsy baby - I know what you are saying darling and last week I was worried that he would think I was there to see him - But now I really do not care what he thinks! Like he did not care what I thought when he was driving past here 5 times a day! I will go where I want - I live in the heart of London so there are so many places for me to go and his club is not one I would go out of my way to go to. But if it is where my friends are going then I will go and not care what he thinks! hey there, i'm in c. lon also!
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 Wow I am in Islington!!!!!!! Just up the road I used to work in Shaftesbury Avenue!
noclobber Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Wow I am in Islington!!!!!!! Just up the road I used to work in Shaftesbury Avenue! Great! I am taking the flight from San Francisco to London to meet a wonderful woman that just got over her ex and is ready to date again :lmao:
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 see u tomorrow Clobsy! Remember to wear something sexy
cygny Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 whoa--i live on shaft. ave!! where did you work?
Author Lishy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 Emap - Endeavor house! Heat mag is there! Where do you work?
cygny Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 i'm doing an independent multimedia project--as producer, exec. producer, and concept creator--that's what i'm doing here so i'm on my own-- is emap by dean street?
alphamale Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 Lishy i think that is the true test of being over someone--that you can go to where you know he will be and be unaffected. but LISHY was not "unaffected" as you say....she made eye contact with him and then started this thread on LS when she got home. that means he's still on her mind.
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