Groovy Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 This guy I am dating spent the night and was pawing at me, grabbing my a$$, cupping my breasts and scratching me hard! I am 33, he's 37. In the morning he was all rested and chipper saying he didn't remember it. I thought avoid it until you are more established. Maybe he lied, maybe he doesn't remember from drinking. Then tonight I told him after last night he could not sleep over. He was acting hurt about it. He said he paws away all night when he's in a relationship. He does it in his sleep and he can't help it. We have been friends for 4 months and I feel if he just wanted sex he wouldn't still be around. He also has been very honest about everything, including things I don't want to hear. So if he paws like this even when we are sexual, I feel like I will not be able to work or stay healthy and am thinking of breaking it off even though I like him. I'd prefer the idea he was drunk and thought I'd go for it versus an everynight occurrence for the future. Has anyone heard of such a weird phenomenon? Second he mentioned he used to have sex with his girlfriend when she was sleeping. That it's called the sneak attack. He said sometimes he gets hard at night. To me that is a violation and I am not sure if I am making a bigger deal of it than I should be. I told him he should use his hand instead of wake her up. Is this something maybe more couples do when they are married or together for a long haul? One girlfriend's husband did that, I never liked him. But maybe I am living though my own viewing lenses and wanted other opinions. 1
Fester Lungblood Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Yeah I used to do that. My experience is this: cut out the booze, you cut out the problem.
TeaCooler Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 my friend did it with his girlfriend all the time when she was sleeping. i don't know how she didn't wake up, but my educated guess is that alcohol was involved. because i know i would wake up to being effed. he learned his lesson. she forgot to tell him once that she had a tampon in. i'll spare you the gory details, but i will say it involved a doctor, some penicillin, and new sheets.
933KJL Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 We have been friends for 4 months and I feel if he just wanted sex he wouldn't still be around. Your logic is severely flawed.
Author Groovy Posted February 5, 2006 Author Posted February 5, 2006 O.K, so it happens. As far as my logic being flawed, I know that. That can happen when your dating a person really attractive person to you and your hormones are stirred around them:( I'll probably keep him around long enough to sleep with him but not long enough for him to give me permanent marks from his weird habits. Maybe I just want a relationship now so I can have good sex and company:bunny: . Called me messed up and damaged.....
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