alphamale Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 I think it is simply a matter of character, -either a mature and responsible one , or an immature, irresponsible one. -Rio sometimes the person you dumped in an "irresponsible" manner deserves it....every think of that RIO?
loony Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 sometimes the person you dumped in an "irresponsible" manner deserves it....every think of that RIO? Deserves it?? Excuse me, and what would you deserve? Certainly you must be the impeccable partner and gentleman.
luvtoto Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Ok so timing stikes yet again. It always seems to happen to me and a lot of other girls I know where a guy starts dating you and is really into you and then all of a sudden, he just realizes that his life is "too unorganized" and that he can't date you anymore. Now I can understand feeling this way BUT what I DON'T UNDERSTAND is why you guys decide that you'd rather not discuss why you can't talk about it and so instead you just do the disappearing act. This happened to me as of late. I was dating a guy, things were going well and then he told me that he needed some space, sorry he TEXTED me that he needed space. He said that he wanted to talk about things when we both had time and well, it's been a couple of days and I haven't heard a peep out of him. I just don't get it, he said it a couple of times WITHOUT MY PROMPTING that he wanted to talk about the needing space even though I said I knew what I need space means. He said he was going to call me and talk to me about it on Thursday and as to be expected as he has been doing for the past week, he said he would call and hasn't. To get the whole story of what happened, you can read the thread "he's depressed or not interested in me anymore, I'm getting mixed signals." I just wanted to know from the guys out there why a lot of guys are so adamant about talking about things and then seem to chicken out and disappear? I know that the disappearing is probably for the best so that you don't have to hear the worst but it always seems like there is never a conclusion to things when they are ended this way. I have not emailed, texted or called him because I've already done my part, I've done the chasing all week, if he really wanted to, he would call me. But I guess he's not interested anymore so the only thing to do is move on. Your story sounds all too familiar. I can relate to being confused and stunned over the sudden change with a BF's behavior. Now think about this...what if your relationship wasn't what you thought it was? What if unspoken issues were present all along that you chose to ignore or just didn't see...or didn't want to see.
riobikini Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 Loony, Re: " Deserves it?? Excuse me, and what would you deserve? Certainly you must be the impeccable partner and gentleman. " Thank you for taking my part in that, Loony. (Smile) And to AlphaMale: Even dumpers should act responsibly in doing the dumping. You must've been the one on the playground, as a child, -who said, abruptly, "Gimme back my ball, -I'm going home!" -because the game wasn't going quite in your favor. -Rio 1
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 You must've been the one on the playground, as a child, -who said, abruptly, "Gimme back my ball, -I'm going home!" -because the game wasn't going quite in your favor. Wonderful analogy. And so true for many shallow dumpers.
jerbear Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 From what I'm going thru now; well.. Some personalities require that they know more, read it examine it, research it, trust it, then take her time doing it. Sometimes coaxing them to make a slower safe decision works. Some people require time and trust. If the situation speeds up it or a topic scares them, they back off and run away. i.e. the topic of marriage sometimes by the time they figure it out, it is to late. It is a big step in a relationship, sleeping over compared to marriage entails more responsibilities. For a guy losing freedom is just scary at times.
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