unimoko Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 When a man and a woman have sex too quick into the relationship (or even on a date), why do women have a emotional attachement and men don't. I guess I am trying to ask is why women put out their heart out so easily in comparision to men?
Curmudgeon Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 then I'd be the only man in the world who truly understood women and would make millions from a book, lecture series and television interviews. The flip side of the coin would be, why do men fall in lust so easily? Some people have sex. Others make love. I don't think either one is necessarily gender-specific or exclusive.
Guest 3 Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 sometimes its low self esteem, when a man makes us feel pretty or wanted we get emotional. most women dont look at a man as a hole or just a way to get off (we dont need men for that), if a women is attracted to a man enough to have sex with him she is usually attracted to his personality also.
newbby Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 it is an emotional attachment to feeling bad. like maybe they f***ed up and hoping they wont be rejected, thats all. if i have sex with somebody who i KNOW for sure is desperately in loe with me, it doesnt matter how early on in the relationship, i probably (unless i ALREADY feel the same way) not get attached or emotional. on the other hand, if i am completely unsure of somebodys feelings for me and i sleep with them, then i am likely to get MORE attached, because i dont want to be rejected afterwards. it is the same for men, but with men who verbally give their feelings too easily, or do too much too soon. then they feel vulnerable and more attached and emotional. its not really about the emotions toard the other person, but the emotions about themselves, which they associate with the other person. 1
Author unimoko Posted February 4, 2006 Author Posted February 4, 2006 I slept once with a man that I knew even from the begining when we started to date that I did not want to be involved in a relationship with him (yeah...good idea ) and became "friends". When he told me that he slept with another woman I was so upset. Even though I had no reason to. Can you explain that?
witabix Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 When a man and a woman have sex too quick into the relationship (or even on a date), why do women have a emotional attachement and men don't. I guess I am trying to ask is why women put out their heart out so easily in comparision to men? I slept once with a man that I knew even from the begining when we started to date that I did not want to be involved in a relationship with him (yeah...good idea ) and became "friends". When he told me that he slept with another woman I was so upset. Even though I had no reason to. Can you explain that? You're still kidding.....
newbby Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I slept once with a man that I knew even from the begining when we started to date that I did not want to be involved in a relationship with him (yeah...good idea ) and became "friends". When he told me that he slept with another woman I was so upset. Even though I had no reason to. Can you explain that? it is still ego. you want to be the 'only one' or the 'best one', but i wouldnt say it is any indication of your feelings for him. witabix, i dont get it thnakyou serial muse
witabix Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 it is still ego. you want to be the 'only one' or the 'best one', but i wouldnt say it is any indication of your feelings for him. witabix, i dont get it thnakyou serial muse Oh well, just ignore me, I am tired today. Should be studying but just goofing off......... 1
Author unimoko Posted February 4, 2006 Author Posted February 4, 2006 Okay...with my situation thinking about it my ego, not my heart was damaged. But that still doesn't answer the question about why women fall so easily?
Lishy Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 It is like a trigger flicks in your head as soon as you have sex! I had the exact same thing - I was cool until we had sex and then BAM! So more opinions on this would be so cool!
Author unimoko Posted February 4, 2006 Author Posted February 4, 2006 You know I think with women we have a sense of entilitement and ownership when we have sex. Its like a pact that a woman makes with a man. Unfortunately, the man never agreed with it! I need to hear from the fellas on this subject. What makes a man fall in love with a woman?
whichwayisup Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 It's just the way we're wired. Maybe it has to do with loving easily, giving easily because we're the ones who have children. I don't know!
a4a Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I can certainly say I have not fallen in love with every guy I have had a sexual relationship with. Many things may have been attractive about them besides the sex but not all woman have switch that flips when you have sex. a4a- tater whore
Outcast Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 It's all biological. Fascinating stuff. Nature's way of making people want to produce offspring. Really, give this a read. It's nifty information. http://www.mcmanweb.com/love_lust.htm
riobikini Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Similar to the old joke which goes like this: A herd of cows were grazing below in the pasture. Up on the hilltop, high above, an older bull stood with a much younger, inexperienced bull. The younger bull looked down at all the cute cows and feeling pretty turned on at all that was available down there, he turns to the old bull and says, " Hey! -why don't we run down there and just f*ck one of those cute cows!" The older, wiser, more experienced bull answered back, "Son, I'm all for that, -but why don't we just w-a-l-k down, instead, -and f*ck all of them?) Point: Men are genetically programmed to seek to mate with the whole herd, -not just one cutie. (Smile) -Rio
lindya Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I can certainly say I have not fallen in love with every guy I have had a sexual relationship with. Many things may have been attractive about them besides the sex but not all woman have switch that flips when you have sex. a4a- tater whore You're different, a4a. Once a woman has given her heart over to the beautiful, noble, courageous animal that is a horse, it's hard for a man to compete...even though he might shag like a rampant bunny.
Outcast Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Point: Men are genetically programmed to seek to mate with the whole herd, -not just one cutie. Not true. But a lot of people like to believe it because they think it gives them leave to boink anybody they want to.
riobikini Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Both genders have that right to begin with. It's overcoming, and evolving from, the clinging remnants of our genetic, pre-historic pre-disposition that makes us responsible, thinking, human beings, with the ability to feel emotion. Your point, Outcast, was well-received. -Rio
honeybunch2k5 Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I think this happens because women equate sex with love. They don't want to feel like sluts when they enjoy sex, so they hope the guy will want a relationship with them. Also, think about the actual act itself. The woman is accepting someone else inside her body unlike the man. I'm with outcast. Men are not more sexual with women, and the American culture and maybe British cultures are amongst the few cultures in the world that believes this. Anthropologists like like (helen?) Fisher have presented evidence that women have historically been sexually active with many mates. This is the excuse men give when they just don't feel like being monogamous and feel entitled to bonk many women.
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