bebegal Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Hi!..I havent been on here for a while as things have been going well. Quickly.. my bf went on a far away trip with his family to the Philipines. It is expenisve to call so I he does not call. He will be gone for a month... first he was texting every day then every other now every 4-5 days. I know he is on vacation with his family(mom, dad and sis) who I am pretty close with.. but I miss him so much and I wonder if he does not email or text( he is able to email via his cell).. if he doesnt miss me or what. I spend every minute thinking about him and counting down the days.. it just hurts that he does not wonder what I am up to( i just moved to be with him in his city) and have barely any friends. Just wondering if this is normal.. And then what.. when he comes back.. thigns will pick up again and well talk and see each other every day? Please help me figure things out. Thanks
7on Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I don't know. He could just be busy, parents griping that he's sending too many txt msges. You guys could try skype if he has broadband over there - it's like a really cheap way to send/recieve phone calls on a compuer <1¢ a minute or something. Though for you to call him it'd mean signing up for the monthly service - but you can buy outgoing minutes for like 10 dollars. A minute is approx. 1¢ internationally. Skype.com I'd refrain from trying to over contact the guy. Personally I'd love it - but he might not.
ladyinwaiting Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Don't fret too much about it. Really. I was in a similar situation to you last year. My man got an overseas conference gig and he and a workmate decided to tack a couple of extra weeks on to go skiing. He was away over a month altogether. He was very much "i will call you every day" before he left, and for the first couple of days, when he was at the hotel, he even kept that promise. But then he and his friend headed off into the mountains and it got more difficult to call and, eventually, we were down to a phonecall a week. It didn't mean he loved me any less, or that he didn't miss me - it just meant he was on vacation and was pretty much working on a different and far more relaxed timeline to 9-to-5-me. He got back home and everything returned to normal. So don't sweat it - and let him enjoy his vacation and come back missing you like mad
Author bebegal Posted February 4, 2006 Author Posted February 4, 2006 Lady-- thank you for your reply. It makes me feel better. It must have hurt you as well.. I am still sad.. and if it was me on vacation--I would be calling him a lot more. He is on the beaches all day with his family, sis and grandparents..he has the time..But still.. Thanks for your kind message. It is going to be a hard month( I have already gone 11 days..19 to go.. I just hope he hasn't forgotton about me by then. One more thing..it is hard for me not to get mad when I only hear from him once a wk..and to write sweet text messages back.. why is it ok for him in his mind to only call me once a wk..and think I will not be mad.. when he knows how much I miss him?!! ARGHH
Author bebegal Posted February 6, 2006 Author Posted February 6, 2006 I finally got an email from him saying he was sorry he had not written but he was traveling to another town. I am so confused.. it has been 5 days.. he has internet on his phone? WOuldn't you be mad!? Here I am missing him to death and he is so nonchalant about this whole being away from me for a month... I do not know how to respond to this email..as he has hurt my feelings. I did write back a couple sentences about my job and that I woudl talk to him soon. Help--I need some other opinions here.. I think I am just freaking out b/c I feel so lonely and I am scared he will come back and not want to be with me anymore.
silverbeamer Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 BeBe~ Don't fret. When he gets back he will still want to be with you. He is simply in another country seeing and experiencing something that is so different from where you are. While I wonder why you weren't invited on the trip in the first place seeing as how you are so close with his family and your relationship is serious enough for you to have moved to be with him... take this time to focus on yourself! Go out and try something new in your new home or try to meet some other people if possible. Don't play the weak, lonely, sitting at home til my man gets back card because no one likes that. Also-- why does he have to be the first one to write or text to you? Doesn't the phone work both ways? He might feel like you've lost interest if he's the one that always has to initiate the conversations. When he does finally get back remind him why you are together. Give him a welcome home that he won't soon forget. It will make him rethink leaving his sweetie at home for a month again in the future!
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