alphamale Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 PS Are you heading to the SB game or watching it on TV? theere are parties galore going on in town so i'll be somewhere watching it on TV. The only people who can even get close to the stadium are ticket holders.
blind_otter Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 oh well, there puh-len-ty of chicks yeeeep. So what did you learn, TB?
Author tanbark813 Posted February 6, 2006 Author Posted February 6, 2006 you reacted to a 'perceived lack of attention', that is a tip-off that you sabotaged this relationship The phrase "perceived lack of attention" was an attempt to be objective. I thought she was ignoring me, but she claims she wasn't. It doesn't mean I sabotaged the relationship. It means I was stating how things looked from where I stood. is that because you feel like because she's your girlfriend, you deserve all her attention, or do you secretly feel like you aren't good enough to hold her attention? Neither. I don't expect all her attention but I felt like I was getting less than I should. When I look around the room and see several girls giving me much more displays of interest than my own gf, it bothers me. Call it egotistical if you want but that's just how I feel. The lack of attention wasn't what started it. It was that plus her taking shots from other guys while refusing drinks from me. The alcohol didn't come later, it was there from the start. We drink when we go to karaoke bars. On a side note, I've seen several of your posts not just to me but to others and you have a tendency to give advice that indicates you feel it's always the man's fault and never the woman's. I admit I f*cked up that night, but at the same time I don't feel it was 100% my fault. So what did you learn, TB? I learned that bad ideas seem much better when you're drinking. I learned I need to reign in my anger and lighten up on the drinking. *Update* After our talk Friday, she ended up drunk dialing me that night. I told her not to keep calling me but she wanted to talk. She ended up coming over and spent the night. The next morning we worked things out and are back together. We agreed on some things that I think are a good middle ground for avoiding these sorts of problems in the future. I guess we'll see if it actually works.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 *Update* After our talk Friday, she ended up drunk dialing me that night. I told her not to keep calling me but she wanted to talk. She ended up coming over and spent the night. The next morning we worked things out and are back together. We agreed on some things that I think are a good middle ground for avoiding these sorts of problems in the future. I guess we'll see if it actually works. alcholol causes a disproportionate amount of problems in american society...its quite sad actually. And even sadder when you see people wathcing the superbowl and laughing at all the so-called "funny" beer commericials on TV.
blind_otter Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 alcholol causes a disproportionate amount of problems in american society...its quite sad actually. And even sadder when you see people wathcing the superbowl and laughing at all the so-called "funny" beer commericials on TV. Yes indeedy. In my drinking past I had many spectacular blow outs that were almost entirely fueled by alcohol. I think that's probably true of a lot of people.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 Yes indeedy. In my drinking past I had many spectacular blow outs that were almost entirely fueled by alcohol. I think that's probably true of a lot of people. yes is not it funny b_0? you take Mr. Mild-Mannered-CPA-Acccountant and throw 5 or 6 beers into him and all of a sudden he's Mike Tyson
amerikajin Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 Alcohol...so seemingly innocuous a concoction. But it can really derail a relationship, even if it's abused only once. Tanbark, we all screw up in relationships sometime. And sometimes, we screw up a really good thing. Based on what you have written about this relationship in other threads, though, it doesn't sound like much was lost here except for a little 'face'. That's easy enough to get back. This wouldn't have happened if the relationship was great to begin with. Just move on, dude. Best of luck to you.
Author tanbark813 Posted February 6, 2006 Author Posted February 6, 2006 alcholol causes a disproportionate amount of problems in american society... Yeah, which is ironic given how strict our alcohol laws are in comparison to other countries. Tanbark, we all screw up in relationships sometime. And sometimes, we screw up a really good thing. Based on what you have written about this relationship in other threads, though, it doesn't sound like much was lost here except for a little 'face'. That's easy enough to get back. This wouldn't have happened if the relationship was great to begin with. Just move on, dude. Yeah, it's possible Wednesday night was the climax to a lot of little things that transpired beforehand. I'm really on the fence at this point and not sure exactly what to do.
alphamale Posted February 6, 2006 Posted February 6, 2006 I'm really on the fence at this point and not sure exactly what to do. I would go into NC for a week or two and chill out. Then see how you feel....time tends to even things out and give a new perspective
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