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Why women have lonliness and think they'll die lonely and alone.


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Question for the ladies and the gentleman who dated them:

 

Why women have lonliness feeling and think they'll die lonely and alone?

 

I had women tell me this and I even date them, w/o knowing. My background is I prefer older women; so I'm closer to the lonely and alone group. This feeling applies to those in my age group and older. 21-40 for instance.

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Some people feel lonely because they lack social skills. Social skills are important for establishing friendships as well as maintaining them.

 

Other people are lonely, even though they have lots of friends, because they don't really understand intimacy. While they may be good at entertaining other people and being well-liked, they never seem to move beyond a certain level with people. So they always feel disatisfied.

 

And some people are lonely because they have low self esteem and don't like themselves. So despite what's going on in their lives, they always feel hollow and like 'something's missing'.

 

 

I think as people get older, they become less distracted by life and start to face inwards and assess themselves. They start to realize their life may have turned out differently than how they'd hoped.

 

Some people are able to deal with disappointments or delays in life by facing their weaknesses and trying to change them.

Others can't deal with their shortcomings.

They start to look for other people to 'live through' vicariously or to 'take away' their fear or self-loathing. Since no one else can do that for them, they feel chronically lonely.

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Why women have lonliness feeling and think they'll die lonely and alone?

I think it's partially because of our biological clock. We just know the best time for us to find someone is when we are young, good-looking and able to bear children. Later on it just becomes difficult as men will often prefer younger chicks. I read a couple of times that after 40 there are more single women than single men and the single men will go after younger women with daddy complex.

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Why women have lonliness feeling and think they'll die lonely and alone?

why you think only women have these feelings? most men have them too, I would think...

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Why women have lonliness feeling and think they'll die lonely and alone?

 

I don't worry about being alone, as I always find ways of amusing myself. What scares me is the thought of losing my sight, my hearing and my mind. Now that I call loneliness.

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why you think only women have these feelings? most men have them too, I would think...

 

Exactly! It's human nature and as humans we need other people in our lives. Noone really wants to be alone, especially later in life.

 

I don't worry about being alone, as I always find ways of amusing myself. What scares me is the thought of losing my sight, my hearing and my mind. Now that I call loneliness.

 

That is awful and I think that too. Being alone and having to deal with things like that would be frightening! It wouldn't be so bad if someone was there to look help out and be around.

 

My fear is being alone. Yeah, I can entertain myself, and I need some time to myself, but I don't want to be "alone."

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Thank you EVERYONE. This gives me better insights to my older women preferences.

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Just because I'm alone does not mean I'm lonely. Please do not confuse the two or group them together. I like myself - so when I'm alone I'm never feeling lonely....

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