7on Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 So I have a first date tomorrow. Not only that, this will be my first date ever! And I am a bit nervous. The reason for the nervousness is that we work together - since September. Only recently I discovered I liked her and wanted to ask her out. Now I asked her out Monday - she was busy - then on Wednesday for a Saturday lunch. I am pretty much traditional as far as it goes so I haven't really done any "flirting" or what not - just conversing with her basically everyday for at least an hour while at work. I have never flat out told her that I liked her, but I'm sure it's more than obvious. Anyway - back to "traditional." Since Wednesday I have been unable to "show" that I like her. I felt really bad on Thursday when she obviously came to work all "dolled up" and I just couldn't say anything too positive about it. I said, "Hey, your hair is new." and she said, "Well, I guess I'll take that as a compliment." and that was that. She was also wearing different makeup as I could tell but didn't mention it. Today of course she dressed regularly aside from wearing glasses and came to work looking down - of course I felt that I managed to cheer her up a bit as she left (she wasn't down because of me, we talked a bit last night and her housemate was being moody). Anyway, we're going to a small café for lunch at around 1PM tomorrow. Is there anything I should do. Obviously I will want to bring up that I like her - probably in a "I'm sure this is going to be a bit of a shock for you because I hid it so well" kind of way. My main thing is that I have a few "intimacy" issues... primarily dealing with touching, drinking after people, etc. I can get over the touching with certain people (I have kissed someone before so it's not impossible) and I really don't want to tell her that touching is hard for me, but I don't know. I really want to hold hands, hug, etc. but I don't want awkwardness to follow. Oh well, this kind of thing isn't really known by a lot of people only my parents and my roommate/best friend and I am kind of embarrassed by it because it kinda makes me not a real person. I probably just need to sit back and see what happens because around her the nervousness just goes away - it's just the planning that gets me all wound up. And I really don't want to be seen as insensitive or creepy. I really like this girl and I just don't know how to show it.
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