Neptune Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 So kitten chick, I suspect you have broken our code and have easedropped on ICM (International Confederation of Men) So now you know that men have been plotting for many years to make all of you women`s lives miserable and quite frankly, you`re going on strike. I`m how you say....freaking out!
phyrespryte Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I just don't think it's worth it. I find as time goes on I want to date less and less. I've been single for over a year now and stopped dating altogether 8 months ago. Somehow the planets aligned and all of my friends became single at the end of last year but they all have boyfriends now so I've withdrawn from them as of late. I do get lonely at times but I still just don't want to deal with it, I don't think it's worth it. I can't imagine that this is a healthy way to feel. Anyone ever gone through this or am I just that abnormal? I think I kind of felt that way too. It's been 2 years since I've had a real relationship. I've started trying to date again, but it's such a pain. But I think that's cause I haven't met anyone I trust yet. Or maybe because the whole commitment thing is freaking me out. There is someone I'm interested in though, but it's too much effort to get in touch with him. So I'm starting to think being single isn't so bad. So anyways...is it healthy? I don't know. If you can still get out of bed in the morning and live your life then I think it doesn't matter. Are you abnormal? I don't think so. I think dating instead is kind of abnormal, you know?
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Like I said, there's no point in replying here. I was stupid to think that anyone here would understand me. I'm avoidant. It's very easy and comfortable for me to write off dating and relationships forever. I thought I understood you. waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah
Lonestar Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I just don't think it's worth it. I find as time goes on I want to date less and less. I've been single for over a year now and stopped dating altogether 8 months ago. Somehow the planets aligned and all of my friends became single at the end of last year but they all have boyfriends now so I've withdrawn from them as of late. I do get lonely at times but I still just don't want to deal with it, I don't think it's worth it. I can't imagine that this is a healthy way to feel. Anyone ever gone through this or am I just that abnormal? I just mentioned something about this in a different thread. I'm sick of it all myself and have no interest. I look at guys and I'm not attracted to any of them. I can find fault in anyone these days, so I think it's time to take a long break and forget about it for awhile. The thing that does suck is the loneliness, which only makes me miss my ex since he was the last love I had.
ms_jnj Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 Going through that right now. Getting bitter against my better judgement....dating for me has been so much bother for such, well such unimpressive examples of the male gender. And most of my friends are boyfriended, with many of them newly married. I do withdraw from them as they can't seem to spend a single moment away from their SOs. I think I am too young to be losing faith already...
Basic Posted February 4, 2006 Posted February 4, 2006 I understand fully. The GF's in my life have wandered into my life. Very little dating involved. It's been long time now but I'm not looking for another GF. The ending with my last GF wasn't bad, we weren't in love. No pain. Someone may wander into my life again, or not. I don't care.
justagirliegirl Posted February 5, 2006 Posted February 5, 2006 I think there is a tremendous amount of pressure to couple up. People seem to think there is something wrong with you if you don't. What a load of crap. Funny these same people are often the ones griping about how bad their marriage or relationship is. lol When I got divorced, I fully was living my life with no thoughts about getting another partner. Then the bf came along. I have a couple relatives who have never dated and they are approaching 50 and it seems to me that they are the happiest of them all. They haven't don't have someone telling them what to do. They don't have to clean up after kids or husband. They never call me up with tales of woe of being abused or cheated on or dumped. Most of what I read here are how unhappy people are in their relationship as they flit from one person to the next in search of "the one". Seems relationships don't stay in the happy mode very long before something happens and then they break up. Then start all over again finding another partner. I say why bother at all. It is too much trouble. This relationship I am in now is the only one where the pros of it have actually outweighed the cons but still I am thinking when is the other shoe going to drop. When will he get tired of me and move on. If that happens, I will be fully content not to waste my time and emotions on dating again.
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