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Reacting to the Red Flags


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I have a habit of dating men that I knew from the begining that something wasn't right with them. And the more I date them the more I reaffirm that feeling. However, I haven't gotten to the point where I have yet to react the red flags until to late.

Why do women (and men) stay despite knowing something is amiss with the situation?

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I know exactly what you mean. I wish I would figure out what losers these men are before I start liking them, I'm dealing with one at this very moment,don't know yet if he's really playing me or not. I am just as confused!

JEN

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Why do women (and men) stay despite knowing something is amiss with the situation?

 

Because they have an idealized version of the person in their hearts that they want that person to be, and wishful thinking and hope keeps them trying to reconcile reality with the idealized.

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I know exactly what you mean. I wish I would figure out what losers these men are before I start liking them, I'm dealing with one at this very moment,don't know yet if he's really playing me or not. I am just as confused!

JEN

 

Okay, honey. Please take my advice. If you are thinking he is a loser now, and it seems like you just started dating him. End it. Tell him you are not finished with you previous relationships, you're still dealing with the demise of your beloved cat. ANYTHING! Because more than often they will stay if you don't opt out.

 

I myself got severly burned by my last "date" see "Rebound from Hell" So if you see that red flag flapping in the wind and its still in the dating phase then that is the sign to get out.

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