Rcr81 Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 My boyfriend and I had been together for about a month. We were starting to get serious and things were going well. He went away for the weekend and said he would call while he was away. Finally 5 days later I hear from him. In the meantime I was freaking out thinking he was dead. I called his cell twice but figured it was maybe something I did. My second message to him I told him i was hurt and he was a coward for not having the balls to break up with me himself. A couple days later he text messaged me to say he wanted to meet me for lunch at work the next day. He came by and explained himself to me. It turns out he went on a 72 hour coke binge and was embarassed and ashamed and didnt call anyone or do anything after. He said how sorry he was but needed time to himself to get himself help with coke and alcohol. I said i wanted to be there for him and help. He said no and has to do this on his own and asked me not to hate him, then he left. After he left i wrote him an email just saying that i dont hate him and would be there for him if he needs someone. I am seriously heartbroken.We are 24 and 27. Any advice would be appreciated. ***Rcr81***
blah1234 Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 my advice: You don't want to get involved with someone that has a coke addiction - especially when you've been in a relationship with him only a month. Trust me, there are better men out there. And who knows, maybe one day he'll call you when he's 100% clean.
justagirliegirl Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 Don't get involved with people who have drug and alcohol problems. You will always be 2nd to whatever they are addicted to. I would say move on and find a whole man not a broken bird.
lexilas Posted February 3, 2006 Posted February 3, 2006 I agree with blah and justagirliegirl, It's hard to deal with someone with an addiction, it's comparable to them cheating on you and there's no way you can compete. There's also the strong possibility that if the addiction becomes too bad - that person may end of stealing from you. Dealing with an addict is a world of heartache, no other way to explain it.
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