skeptik224 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 So, here's the deal...Many of you are familiar with my story, but you don't really need to know it to answer/relate to this...I'm giving you fair warning that it's kind of confusing.... I found out while my ex and I were still together that the girl I was dating prior to her was seeing someone new. It turned out that my ex is dating my ex's ex, and they just moved in together! After 3 1/2 weeks of NC, my ex (the one that broke my heart) e-mailed me telling me that they moved in and that she couldn't resist contacting me about it. (which makes no sense since I'M the one that initiated NC) I actually heard it the first week in January. I wanted to SO BAD to tell my ex about it because I knew she'd get a kick out of it. I was curious to see how long it would take my ex to hear about it. She said that I was the only one that would be able to appreciate the dimensions of it. She also said that she hopes I'm well. I simply responded that yeah, I heard that and that the only response was too funny. I also said that I hope she was well, too. AND...just because I like to torture myself...I also said "p.s. you don't need an excuse to contact me." Why would she say that she couldn't resist contacting me about this? My heart nearly popped out of my chest when her name came up in e-mail. (I had deleted her address a few weeks ago) How messed up is that situation??? I wonder if it's making my ex think about things and us....any input???
ThatOneGuy Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Well, If you are considering getting back together, then keep talking to her and such.... But if you still want NC, just tell her to leave you alone, stop talking to you, bla bla bla... Or, if you want to keep talking to her, and yet want to make sure relationship issue is out of the question, next time you e-mail her back, say; "You know there is no chance of us ever getting back together right? So, once you understand this I think we can both move back to being friends." It's really your choice on what you want to do. Friends, NC, or give it another shot. Personally I've never kept contact with my Ex's. I find it more trouble then it's worth, because I end up knowing that person better then they know themselves, and that just doesn't work in a friendship. Anyway, good luck. Hope everything works out for whatever path you choose to take on this issue.
Author skeptik224 Posted February 3, 2006 Author Posted February 3, 2006 I'm definitely not ready to be friends...but I also don't want to totally shut her out. She actually replied to me first thing this morning. She asked how I was so I was upbeat and pretty casual...no major details...no feelings at all. I wish I could find the strength to just not respond. I can do fine with NC when it's my choice.
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