Linda_411 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Is it normal for my bf not to really care about my feelings, and always put me down all the time whenever I tell something that upsets me. I tell him how I feel, then he blows it out of proportion, saying it's stupid, and that I'm over sensitive and that I'm stuck in a fairy tale. Then he threatened to me, that if I fight over something stupid again, it's over. Am I wasting my time with him? And he says he wants to be in a relationship with no fighting at all, does that actually happen, and that he misses the old me, and hates the new me, is there something wrong in this relatioship. Also when I want to takl things over about our relationship, he thinks it's not important, and that he isn't a little kid anymore, help me!!!!!!!!!?
kitten chick Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 You're not only wasting your time with him, you're hurting yourself by staying in this relationship. Clearly you're unhappy and you're letting him berate you with no consequences.
filarena Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I don't know what's getting you upset and whether it's overreacting, but refusing to talk about things that bother one party in a relationship seems to me to be very unhealthy. And if he wants a relationship with no fighting at all, I'd say he's the one living in a fairy tale. In a healthy relationship, both partners should be sensitive to the other's concerns, and if they are worried over something they needn't be, they should calmly and caringly tell them that, not belittle them.
jennifer1983 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Oh my goodness....I looked at this post and thought I was the one typing it....It sounds just like my ex bf......he never wants to talk about things that bother me and then when we did he told me they were stupid and that I need to grow up that I dont live in a fairy tale. The things that really did bother me though were actual problems that anyone would have but after hearing him over and over about how stupid they were I started to believe it. Notice I said EX bf.....trust me you will get fed up with this...you will sit here and start to think about the fact that hey you are the one always always always kissing his butt, but when its his turn to bat he turns things around to make you look like you are stupid. It will be hard but it will never last. My ex still tries to talk to me....well right now we just talked today and he decided to fly off at me for something that was again important to me and not to him so I just let it be and am going to move on with my life. You deserve better and its not going to get any better in this relationship....he will think your stupid things much differently when youre no longer there catering to his needs anymore.
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