jennifer1983 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Ok I posted a little earlier this morning about when my exes sister and my ex called me last night. Well I started talking to him today, and he is OBVIOUSLY going thru a really horrible depression. He has distanced himself from even his mom and he is a mommas boy all the way. I tried to talk to him but I know most of its not me. I know he loves me and wants to work it out and so does his family. We get into this discussion about getting his kids this weekend and I said something about waiting for me to get off work and us going together to get them so then we could just go on and go out after we get them. WELLLLL he blew up on me saying that he already told his ex wife he would be there at 430 or 5 and wouldn't wait another hour on me. I mean this to me is ridiculous but I said to him that if he couldnt compromise with me on some things then why be together. He yells at me it doesnt matter what he wants and everybody always walks out on him so what would the difference be. I mean yells at me....over this little thing. I tell him that hes making it this way and that when he realizes the mistake he made to not call me back and he said that it doesnt matter anymore what mistakes he makes because his whole life is a mistake and he hung up on me. GOD I cannot do this to myself anymore why do I let myself go thru this. I get so weak everytime I see his name on my phone.....I need strength.
jerbear Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Momma's boy, ex-wife, and depressed... I hate avoiding issues, but he already has a few women in his life already. okay... As hard as it is. Move on. Go out with friends, family, take a vacation where a momma's boy with an ex-wife need not apply. NC, silence is golden, and delete his numbers from you cell phone, etc...
Author jennifer1983 Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 Yeah I agree I have never broke NC and called him its just for some reason when he calls its like I cannot stop myself from answering. He does have many issues that I have tried to overlook and recently he lost his job and got denied unemployment so he has all these mounting issues and hes letting them build up inside until he breaks. I am so fed up with myself being so weak, I am mad at myself for letting me be this weak. I know that I can do better than him I know I can. Hes 34 and has nothing, and the way hes living he never will. I mean a man that can buy a CASE of beer and have them gone in two days is all wrong. I mean its not just once a month its once or more a week. But for some reason I cant shake this one.
jerbear Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Yeah I agree I have never broke NC and called him its just for some reason when he calls its like I cannot stop myself from answering. He does have many issues that I have tried to overlook and recently he lost his job and got denied unemployment so he has all these mounting issues and hes letting them build up inside until he breaks. I am so fed up with myself being so weak, I am mad at myself for letting me be this weak. I know that I can do better than him I know I can. Hes 34 and has nothing, and the way hes living he never will. I mean a man that can buy a CASE of beer and have them gone in two days is all wrong. I mean its not just once a month its once or more a week. But for some reason I cant shake this one. In prior posts, I have suggested caller id and ignoring certain numbers. Hard to not answer a phone when it is ringing. As part of No Contact (NC) It is a shame that he got denied unemployment and lost his job. Sounds like he was not laid off but was voluntary dismissed. He is very down and will need assistance or counseling of some kind. Case of beer in two days. I hate it when people go down a self destructive path. His mom and ex-wife may have to intervene. Actually all three of you may have to intervene. I still say mom and ex should say something even if it means his mom pulling his ear and giving him a speech.
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