Author tanbark813 Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 tan--are you *sure* you didn't behave in a way that she construed as disrespectful to her-even if unintended by you? and provoked that reaction? and then you reacted to her? and now you seem to be getting advice to 'ditch' her if she doesn't call you? She was vague when I asked exactly what upset her but it was something about me being on stage during one of the songs. A lot of times when I'm singing I look at her and sing to her. I also look around the room and play to the crowd but I sing to her a lot, especially if there's a line in the song that has additional meaning for us. Kind of corny, but it's fun. During one of the songs, a lot of her friends were at the table and she wasn't paying attention to me like she usually does. She was busy talking to her friends and kind of ignored me. So I did my usual playing to the crowd sort of thing but one of the girls at the table who was friends with one of her guy friends was totally into watching me so I looked at her a bit. Not like I do with my gf, but I still looked at her. I'm not even sure if that's the girl she meant since I forget what her name was. Aside from that possibly being the case, I don't know what else would have bothered her. I didn't flirt with anyone. I was friendly to her friends--guys and girls--and I sat next to her with my arm around her the whole night (with the exception of when she was elsewhere or I was in the bathroom). edit: It should also be noted that she's been to karaoke with me dozens of times. I was no different last night than how I usually am and she's never had a reaction like that before. both of you seem to be feeding off of each other's reactions. Yes. We seem to do that a lot. and also you seem to be very jealous--if she goes to the bar for a few minutes you are wondering what's going on, etc etc. what's up with all that? Partially trust issues due to being cheated on; partially how she carries herself around her guy friends.
dgiirl Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Yes. We seem to do that a lot. Well, i guess the mature thing would be to initiate contact with her. Not to grovel, but to clear the air on what happen last night. It's the "grown up" thing to do. If you both are stubborn, nothing will be resolved and you can kiss the relationship goodbye. Unless that's what you want? This doesnt excuse her sitting on some guys lap. But obviously you two got into a tit for tat situation. If you initiate contact, you can either clear the air, or breakup in a civil manner. Better for closure.
lilmoma1973 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Tan that was rude for her to do and you shouldn't waste your time on her .. You are too nice of guy to be treated that way!! She was trying to justify what she done by saying you was flirting with someone else.. Get rid of her and find someone deserving of you!!
Author tanbark813 Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 Well, i guess the mature thing would be to initiate contact with her. Not to grovel, but to clear the air on what happen last night. It's the "grown up" thing to do. If you both are stubborn, nothing will be resolved and you can kiss the relationship goodbye. Unless that's what you want? This doesnt excuse her sitting on some guys lap. But obviously you two got into a tit for tat situation. If you initiate contact, you can either clear the air, or breakup in a civil manner. Better for closure. Well, we'll see. Right now my pride won't allow me to do that. Tan that was rude for her to do and you shouldn't waste your time on her .. You are too nice of guy to be treated that way!! She was trying to justify what she done by saying you was flirting with someone else.. Get rid of her and find someone deserving of you!! Thanks, lilmoma. A girl friend of mine actually suggested that she might just be using the flirting thing as an excuse but who knows. Just when I think I might be starting to understand women they go and throw me for another loop.
Author tanbark813 Posted February 4, 2006 Author Posted February 4, 2006 Update: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t81161/ It looks like cygny was right.
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