unimoko Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I had a engaement that ended abruptly and I wanted to get over my ex so fast I do anything...Well I paid of for it. I met a seemily honorable "Christian man" on the internet. Well he came on fast and furious. Okay let me tell you first of that this is my fault. I saw the criminson red flags. The flashy car, the $$, the fast emotional ivolvement, he had could have the word "womanizer" stamped on his head. But I proceeded and this is what hapened. I know what follows from here will be "I told you so kinda moment". But please induldge me for a moment. So I called him after I told him that I couldn't see him again. And he said that he was hurt that I just wanted to cut it of w/o talking about it (thinking about things now that was the smartest thing I should have done, but I digress). Anyway, so we resume "dating". Which wasn't really dating, it was him coming over my house random times in the middle of the night romping around w/o any respect for each other. It was me playing sexual jokes on him and him teasing me back. It was a total joke, I wanted to sabtoage this situation anyway that I could. But I did not know that he not only loved it, but relished it in. I spoke crude words to him, was physically aggresive---he only wanted more. I am thinking that this is just going to be some fling thing and that somehow it will just disipate. Well, unfortunately it did not happen the way I wanted to. He was telling me about his childhood woes and his walk with Christ and I felt so sypathethic towards him. He was trying to get my heart. Unfortunately, the whole time I knew he was seeing another woman and I pridely thought he was spending time with me b/c he was disatisfied with this other woman. It got to a point where I had to end it with this man. I told him that b/c he wanted to have a sexual realtionship that we could not be together. So guess what I did...on our breakup day we ended up sleeping with each other repeatedly and afterwards vovwed to be friends. I told him that since we now "friends" that I wanted to hear about his relationships, that we would just be "cool" friends. Big mistake. So during this "friends" time. I thought maybe we could resume "dating", but we would be careful not to have sex. So I email him this long email that I lived him and felt a connection and that we could possibly connect in a dating situation. He doesn't reply, instead he text messages me and tells me that he liked my email and that he wanted to talk about it. Well during this time also he was house hunting (at least that what I thought) and I did have a conversation until almost 2 weeks later. So I bring up the conversation and he says that it isn't possible despite my suggestions on being chaste. Then, logic shoots in and I ask him "Did you sleep with that other woman?" and he says Yes, on saturday. So I am thinking he is busy househuting and his is busy banging another woman and danglling the possiblty of us dangling in the background. He is confused, he says we aren't even dating, I have no commitment to you, and you wanted to to know about these things. And I say "Yes, but I felt I was being led on" You are flirting with me and trying to be nice. (My landlord thought he did this because he had no other way to behave to me) I am just livid! I tell him that he have a good life and hangout So the moral to the story was that not only should I NEVER slept with this man. Its crazy, I see the red flags and I just ignore them, pretend that its not really a big deal. My landlord thinks that this is not the last that I will hear from this man, and the sad part is part of me beleives it. You know I cried when he told me that he slept with that woman and I cried the next day. And you think that after all of that, after all my PREVIOUS mishaps that I would learn that sex and dating just don't mix. I remember I had a grin on my face when my landlord asked me if I contact him again. A grin, through this sick situation I think I just enjoyed myself, hurt, pain and all. Do I have to meet some pure sex addict and get knocked up with a kid and some funky disease before I learn my lesson...I hope not.
Lishy Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Do I have to meet some pure sex addict and get knocked up with a kid and some funky disease before I learn my lesson...I hope not. I hope not as well! You did what we all do and you got burnt - Dont beat yourself up ove it - Learn from it and do not make that mistake again!
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