Woggle Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Tonight me and my fiance were at the supermarket and I ran into my ex wife. I tried to keep it civil and on the surface it was but i mentioned casually that I got engaged(I know big mistake) and you could see the look in her eyes. It was pure spite and hatred. If looks could kill I would have been dead. Well as we said goodbye to each other she told me she was happy to see that my life is so fu-king great. She looked she wanted to kill me. Why do some exes hate to see you do great? She only has herself to blame.
witabix Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I have no idea why that would be the case. I am delighted when I hear my exes are dating/marrying/living with someone who makes them happy. My son was telling me how good my ex-W's bf is for her. I was really pleased. It made me happy to hear that. I do not understand the negative things that go on in these situations. I wish all my exes a happy life, I want them to be happy, why wouldn't I? They were an important part my life at one time, I simply cannot hate them regardless of what happened between us.
d'Arthez Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She screwed up (at least, that is what I understand from you), and blames you for the divorce - i.e. "that could have still have been my husband", and the fact that you are doing well, only aggravates that. However, if you were miserable and ruined, she would be probably a bit less hostile.
JayKay Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 It never bothered me when an ex moved on and met someone new. I've never been 'still in love' with any ex.....so perhaps that's why no bitterness on my end. Do you think your ex still has feelings for you?
Lishy Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 You would only be bothered by an ex being happy if you where miserable!
LBC Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 You would only be bothered by an ex being happy if you where miserable! miserable. LOL just reminded me of what my friend said last night. He has had an on and off relationship for over 5 years. Said it was over for good now, that they fought too much. He says hey "I can be miserable on my own, i dont need company". In the context it was freaking hilarious. nice avi btw
Mz. Pixie Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Woggle, when did you get engaged??? This is news to me. My ex hates to see me doing well. Works both ways. I actually don't mind him being happy, I want him to be because of our kids but not him. Screw him, is how I feel about it. Let him sit over there and sulk, I'm living my life to the fullest.
brashgal Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She only has herself to blame. That's a little bitter, isn't it? Blame is a subjective thing and actually is not necessary - the two of you were not right for one another so you split. She probably is not over you yet, for some of us it takes years for those residual and confusing feelings to dissipate. Might have been easier for her to be happy for you if your fiance hadn't been there radiantly glowing by your side.
Author Woggle Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 Woggle, when did you get engaged??? This is news to me. My ex hates to see me doing well. Works both ways. I actually don't mind him being happy, I want him to be because of our kids but not him. Screw him, is how I feel about it. Let him sit over there and sulk, I'm living my life to the fullest. She proposed to me a little more than a week ago.
lilmoma1973 Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Alot of people don't realize what they have till it is gone!! She is jealous and upset cause you aren't crying over her and you have moved on.. It is her loss and your fiance gain and she is realizing she made a big mistake leaving you.. Good luck and don't let her rain on your parade.. She is miserable and want to make you miserable too.. Don't be surprized she don't start calling you !!
Mz. Pixie Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 That's a little bitter, isn't it? Blame is a subjective thing and actually is not necessary - the two of you were not right for one another so you split. She probably is not over you yet, for some of us it takes years for those residual and confusing feelings to dissipate. Might have been easier for her to be happy for you if your fiance hadn't been there radiantly glowing by your side. Bitter? Not Woggle, surely not!
whichwayisup Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Tonight me and my fiance were at the supermarket and I ran into my ex wife. I tried to keep it civil and on the surface it was but i mentioned casually that I got engaged(I know big mistake) and you could see the look in her eyes. It was pure spite and hatred. If looks could kill I would have been dead. Well as we said goodbye to each other she told me she was happy to see that my life is so fu-king great. She looked she wanted to kill me. Why do some exes hate to see you do great? She only has herself to blame. No matter how it ended, she felt the pain -Another kind of loss of losing you which to her, is a failure of HER mistakes. Like "he was yours" but now he is going to be another woman's husband. Can we say EGO. That is all that's about. Ofcourse she is going to say she's happy for you! What is she really gonna say, "You suck, I hate you and hope your life turns to s***!"? LOL, I know, that's extreme. She probably isn't a happy person anyway and has anger and hurt inside her, so seeing you happy pissed her off. And probably throw some jealously in there too!
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Tonight me and my fiance were at the supermarket and I ran into my ex wife. I tried to keep it civil and on the surface it was but i mentioned casually that I got engaged(I know big mistake) and you could see the look in her eyes. It was pure spite and hatred. If looks could kill I would have been dead. Well as we said goodbye to each other she told me she was happy to see that my life is so fu-king great. She looked she wanted to kill me. Why do some exes hate to see you do great? She only has herself to blame. I don't remember - did your XW leave you? If so, then I don't understand her behaviour either. she left you cuz she didn't want you, right? Well, then why in the hell would she be *mad* that you are now engaged? This is yet another aspect of human behaviour I do not get. If you leave someone that means you don't want them so why would you care what the other person does afterwards? Wog's XW doesn't make any sense with me at all.
Art_Critic Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She doesn't want to see you happy.. it kills her
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She doesn't want to see you happy.. it kills her But why does it *kill* her? She left him. She didn't want him. He got on with his life. He found a woman. He is now engaged. Wog's actions do not change the fact that she left him and she didn't want him sooooo... why is this *killing* her? What Wog does should have zero bearing on her.
loony Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She wanted to get back with him and he just made fun of her together with his great fiancée while she was crying on the phone.
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 She wanted to get back with him and he just made fun of her together with his great fiancée while she was crying on the phone. And? So why does she care if she has left him and no longer wants him? She shouldn't give a *beep* about what he does or doesn't do. If she left him then she took herself out of his life therefore he and his actions should not matter one whit to her.
basscatcher Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 It's about control, left over feelings, and jealousy.. At one time they were together and now he is sharing what she had with someone else. She knows how good the other woman has it now... She lost and she knows it..
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 It's about control, left over feelings, and jealousy.. At one time they were together and now he is sharing what she had with someone else. She knows how good the other woman has it now... She lost and she knows it.. Sorry, still doesn't make sense... If she left him then she didn't *lose*. She got what she wanted by leaving. So she actually *won*. If she left him then the feelings must have been gone so that shouldn't be an issue either.
basscatcher Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Sorry, still doesn't make sense... If she left him then she didn't *lose*. She got what she wanted by leaving. So she actually *won*. If she left him then the feelings must have been gone so that shouldn't be an issue either. NOPE. That is not always the case. I have left and broken up with guys that I didn't really want too. It was an easy way out for me when there were problems and things I didn't know how to deal with or face. I regretted the breakups.. My dad is in this situation too. He has regretted for 27 yrs walking out on my mom.. He still holds a torch for her and he is married to another for the past 26 yrs... He lives with his mistake.. It eats him almost alive. People do stupid things all the time based on pride, insecurities, running away from truth, coward acts. etc.... 1
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 NOPE. That is not always the case. I have left and broken up with guys that I didn't really want too. It was an easy way out for me when there were problems and things I didn't know how to deal with or face. I regretted the breakups.. My dad is in this situation too. He has regretted for 27 yrs walking out on my mom.. He still holds a torch for her and he is married to another for the past 26 yrs... He lives with his mistake.. It eats him almost alive. People do stupid things all the time based on pride, insecurities, running away from truth, coward acts. etc.... Well, then if that is what happens then people shouldn't get involved with another person until they have completely healed from the X. How can your Dad possibly be happy with his wife if he is still hurting from his walkout? Why did he even marry your Mom if he wasn't over his X?
whichwayisup Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 But why does it *kill* her? She left him. She didn't want him. He got on with his life. He found a woman. He is now engaged. Probably cuz she's lonely, pissed off and jealous that he has found someone else. I'm betting she was probably hoping he'd stay single and miserable for a long time. Now that he has moved on, met someone and getting married, her panties are in a twist about it. EGO. That is all that's about. EGO. She obviously still has some unresolved feelings of "something" for him.
Author Woggle Posted February 2, 2006 Author Posted February 2, 2006 That's a little bitter, isn't it? Blame is a subjective thing and actually is not necessary - the two of you were not right for one another so you split. She probably is not over you yet, for some of us it takes years for those residual and confusing feelings to dissipate. Might have been easier for her to be happy for you if your fiance hadn't been there radiantly glowing by your side. I have my faults but she is the one that cheated and she is the one that spread nasty rumors about me because I told her I would need time to decide if I would forgive her. Truthfully I'm not even bitter anymore against her. She is a sad sad woman and I hope one day she can find happiness. I truly mean that but it won't happen unless she decides to take charge of her life and change her attitude.
SmoochieFace Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I have my faults but she is the one that cheated and she is the one that spread nasty rumors about me because I told her I would need time to decide if I would forgive her. Truthfully I'm not even bitter anymore against her. She is a sad sad woman and I hope one day she can find happiness. I truly mean that but it won't happen unless she decides to take charge of her life and change her attitude. And accept responsibility for her part in the divorce. Somehow, I don't believe she has done that...
Art_Critic Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 And accept responsibility for her part in the divorce. Somehow, I don't believe she has done that... Your Right SF.. but neither has Woggle ..
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