csfong007 Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Here's my question...My boyfriend and I have been going around for 10 months. He does many nice things for me like flowers, fixes things, chicken soup when I'm sick, etc. I don't know how he is about Valentine's Day, nor am I going to ask. I'm keeping it low key and got him a card and dark chocolate (his favorite). Question is: What if he doesn't remember me on Valentine's Day? Do I still give him my card and chocolate? Do I express my hurt and disappointment or keep my mouth shut? Thanks for your help.
Pendawn Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 I tihnk you should have a subtle conversation about your expectations and what his feeligns towards Valentines expressions are, or you MAy lead to hurt nad resentmen. Maybe if there's a commercial on Tv about somethign Valentines you could bring up your feelings saying "Wow that's a really exspensive/lavish/cheap/tacky thing to do for Valentines, what do you think?". Get an idea of if he thinks Valentines is a commercial day and thinks if you really love someone you show them all the time and don't need Valentines, or if he loves Valentines and likes to spoil his gf on that day. If he seems like he doesn't care about Vday then you can say well it's important for you and you don't have to have a big deal but maybe some flowers or a card would be really nice. I don't think anyone should assume that no card or gift on Valentines Day means he doesn't care, it may just mean he hates the day and what he feels it stands for.
J.R Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 it's just another day, you do what u do and he will do what he does
Hungryhorse Posted February 2, 2006 Posted February 2, 2006 Hi there, hope you don't mind my opinion, personally speaking I would be upset if my boyfriend forgot Valentines but saying that I am in the same situation I have been going out with my boyfriend for 10 months and don't know if he will remember. I am going to send him a card and buy him a gift but if he doesn't remember I won't say anything and probably not give him the gift. Admittedly I will feel very upset and assume it is simply the way he feels about me and review the relationship. Feel any guy knows Valentines is important if they want to make a good impression its in all the shops if he doesn't want to make me happy if not don't know what he is doing with me. Hope this may help.
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