too unreal Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Okay, still having issues with this……. Something feels off… How do I know when the end is the end??? Can I judge the “lack of desire” as the beginning of the end? When I informed Max that I do not think he is sexually attracted to me anymore, he replied with “you are crazy” (and then rolled over and promptly went to sleep) ha ha ha…I am not joking…. Well he didn’t exactly roll over and go to sleep right then, but it was a little later, after we fought about things. I told him it wasn’t fair that he stay with me if he wasn’t attracted to me. He just kept saying “I love you”…love isn’t the same as attraction, or is it? DO men equate “I love you” with “I am attracted to you sexually as well”? He also said I was confused.. He said he was tired. He said a lot of things. None of which was a definite straight out “I want to eat you alive I am so attracted to you” If men aren’t sexually attracted to their partner anymore, will they still stay with them? Will they make life plans (as in baby, marriage, promises, buying cars/land/houses) The humiliation factor: This morning he starts grinding against me and making his manhood quite apparent and telling me we are going to do it tonite…… Well now I don’t want it…because it feels like he only did all of that because I threw issue with his lack of desire as of late the nite before…..
Author too unreal Posted February 1, 2006 Author Posted February 1, 2006 So.....no one has a comment for me?? I guess I just need to know if when things ended for other people was it because of lack of sexual attraction, ever??
basscatcher Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 Maybe he has been physciall too tired lately or mentally exhausted to think about sex. I have had my man (not current one) tell me when I questioned his distance that he was tired. He has been dealing with stress from work, friends, family, etc and he is just to tired at that time to even think about sex. It is also that time of year where SAD is very much in effect and that can kill someones sexual desires too. Again, this is only my experience and I don't know your whole story to be able to comeup with many opinions. I would try talk to him about it when you are sitting at the kitchen table or on the couch with the tv off so you have his attention. The bedroom is for sleeping and sex generally. To have the talk in a serious manner you need his attention and focus.
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