How do you approach someone when you don’t know if they are involved with someone.

[GuySimple]

I really don’t want to insult them by asking them. I met a woman the other night and really seem to hit it off with her. I was just about to ask her out when it came out that she has a boyfriend.

[Art_Critic]

You don't ask her out..

 

you ask her if she is dating anyone and go from there..

 

Just come up with the words and do it.. say " I was wondering if you are seeing anybody ?".. if they say yes.. problem solved.. if they say no say " well.. would you like to go to dinner ?"

 

Most women don't mind being asked that first.... Try it

 

They do hate it when they have a guy and you ask them out first and assume that they are single

[GuySimple]

Good advice AC.

 

I met someone through a work connection. We hit it off fairly well and I asked if she wanted to get together sometime and asked her out for lunch.

 

I started to think afterwards that what if she was already see someone and how embarrassing that would be.

 

I'm thinking that now just to lunch and ask her there if she is seeing someone.

[barfool]

Just a thought, what if you could somehow pose the question as something flattering as well. Perhaps "wow, someone as great as you must have a boyfriend." Then you can get the answer you need plus pay her a compliment.

[Deirdre]

well i always assumed they have girlfriends and speak in that fashion. if they bother to "correct" me, than i know they are single, or they are seeing other men.

[Curmudgeon]

was, "Would I be stepping on anyone's toes if I asked you out to dinner?"

[monkey00]

just straight out ask them out.

 

if they respect/are loyal to their SO, they will tell you about it before it goes any further.

 

...and if they dont respect the SO...well in the meantime u can assume they're single or casually dating, and only find out later.

 

But i dont think it would be a bad idea to bring up the question on the first date (if seeing anyone else)...but no one can be 100% honest