EricH Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I am a 16 year old high school student. I have not had a girlfriend in a long time (in elementary school) because I have been too shy to talk to any girls. Recently, a new girl moved here. I really like her a lot. I have tried to talk to her, but I can't keep a conversation going without getting too nervous. I have tried everything. Usually, this is the point where I just give up, but I just couldn't this time. Our school was having a dance, so I got together all my courage and, by some miracle, managed to ask her to go with me. She said she would have to ask her parents, and that she would call me. I went home and waited and waited and waited. After a long time, a just gave up hope. But, to my surprise, she called. And, even more to my surprise, she said yes. I was so happy. At the dance, we didn't stay very long. She said she wasn't feeling very well but she was sorry. After that, I have became more nervous around her. To make things worse, I overheard her saying that she had a boyfriend before she moved here, and that the two of them had been going out for a long time. Now I am too nervous to speak to her at all. I even tried writing a note. I wrote it four days ago, but I still haven't given it to her. I have even tried to forget about her, but that ends as soon as I see her. She is smart, nice, and good-looking, and I have no clue what I should do. I don't want to hurt her, but I am in much pain myself right now. Help me please.
Lil Honey Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 I would say to give the relationship time. She is new to the area, had to move away from friends, and is getting over having to leave a boyfriend. She has some adjusting to do. Give her time to get herself used to her new surroundings. One of the best things a person can do when they are interested in someone is get to know them first. Knowing what her hobbies are, the classes she takes, etc. can help you keep the conversation going. Ask a lot of questions so that she does a lot of the talking and you have time to relax and think of other things to talk about.
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