Baybee9404 Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I have beening dating my boyfriend for a year and some months now. My problem with him is his ex girlfriend who is also the mother of his 3 year old daughter. My boyfriend has full custody of their daughter and she lives with us. Going into this relationship i wanted him and could deal with the fact that their was a child i needed to care for also, not the baggage of his ex-girlfriend. Now it has gotten to the point in our relationship that i can no longer trust him with his kid's mother from things that have happened in the past and recently while we were together, i just found out about through a family memeber of my boyfriend. I found out while i was on vacation with my family that he let his ex stay at our house because their daughter had an early doctors appointment the next day. I confronted him about it and he lied right to my face. I was told by him that he just got his ex pregant that he didnt have a long relationship with her and that he never planned a future with her. Then i find out he proposed to her and that they planned to get married when they had the money to pay for the wedding. In the beginning of the relationship he would hide my belongings in his house and his excuse was he didnt want his daughter to get at it. He never wants me to go with him to pick up or drop off his daughter to her mother for the weekend. His excuse is i know how she is she will make things up to get u to break up with me. Why would she do that she currently has a new baby with her current boyfriend and still with him so what does she have to lose. He never tells me when she is coming up for meetings or appointment for his daughter, he goes in the other room to talk to her on the phone. If hes not hiding something them what the freak is going on. Please help me figure out if this relationship is a waste of my time.
RainyDayWoman Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Please help me figure out if this relationship is a waste of my time. read your post back to yourself. pretend it's about someone else. what would you say to them? honestly... there's your answer.
incognito Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Yeah.... sounds like something shady is going on and if I were you I would get to the bottom of it any way you can. And from the sounds of it to me....that would mean contacting his ex directly.
Touche Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Well, for me personally, it would have been a deal breaker the minute he let another woman stay in the house I share with him. That's BIG. Also, the fact that you can't go along when it's time to pick up the child. BIG red flag there. Hate to say this but this relationship, in my opinion, has almost zero chance of succeeding.
zoey15 Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Damn Baybee, are you serious? You really need to wake up and realize what you are dealing with here. Why on earth are you sticking around after you know he lied about her staying at your home? Who told you about this? Is it someone you trust, because if it is, please listen to them. This man is making you look like a complete idiot. He probably laughs with his friends about it, so now what you should do is, LEAVE HIM!!! This relationship sounds like a complete lie. I bet the baby mama knows nothing about you. I'd confornt her. What do you have to lose, an a**h*** for a boyfriend who has no regard for anyone's feelings; not even his own daughters. It will be hard to make a move, because believe me I know how hard it is to leave a man you live with, but he is no good. Just like Rainydaywoman said, read it like it was someone else.
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