Long term girlfriend breaks up, and doesn't waste any time finding a replacement...

[Toji]

The other day she called and yelled at me because i didnt call her on her birthday. She told me then to never expect to talk to her again so i havent. A few days ago she leaves me a message on myspace saying, i can not go on without talking to you. Sofar she hasnt made an attemp to talk to me and i havent tried to talk to her.

 

It just all sucks.

 

 

Well it sounds like she still thinks about you. I haven't got that impression at all from my ex. For all I know I've been 100% replaced, physically and mentally. Why think about the old when the new seems so much better?

[djrdei]

Well it sounds like she still thinks about you. I haven't got that impression at all from my ex. For all I know I've been 100% replaced, physically and mentally. Why think about the old when the new seems so much better?

 

 

Well i find out tonight that she has been kissing and making out with this new guy for over 3 weeks now, but she says she still wants to talk to me. I told her well she has a replacement for me so just leave me alone. i knew it wouldnt take her long at all to replace me. Wish I could move on that quick.

[Toji]

Well i find out tonight that she has been kissing and making out with this new guy for over 3 weeks now, but she says she still wants to talk to me. I told her well she has a replacement for me so just leave me alone. i knew it wouldnt take her long at all to replace me. Wish I could move on that quick.

 

 

I'm so sorry dude, I know exactly how you feel. The same **** has been going on for a month now. It just tears me up inside, but what can I do? She's made her choice and now I have to live with it. I just hope this guy tears her heart out and stomps on it, because I honestly believe she's forgotten what it feels like. Funny, because when I first met her all she could talk about was how depressed, suicidal she'd been for that last 8 months because her boyfriend of a year had ended it. She didn’t even love him.

[batesal]

It is possible that you have been replaced. But you know it is not the end of the world. An update of my situation. I went and had luch with my ex, cause she asked to see me. Well I actually got a little hurt with some of the things that we talked about, but that was primally my fault. I knew that if I saw her, I would hurt, but I really didn't care. I wanted to make sure that she was OK.

 

A couple of things that we talked about was her future with him. All I did was listen, I did ask a couple of questions, and told her what I felt was going on, but I never talked about me, until I felt I should. I am going to say this : If you don't want to hear about your ex's problems in her life, then it is best that you not talk to her, because she will call you when she is hurting.

 

I asked her questions about who made her happier, what did she miss and what she wanted. She told me that her current boyfriend makes her happy, but she misses me and everything that I did for her. She also confessed a little more stuff to me, and told me that she still feels that there is a chance that we will get back together. I told her not to make any promises she couldn't keep, but to make sure that if she wanted to get back together with me it was HER decision. I asked her other questions like if she cried when she broke up with me any, and she said NO, and asked her if she ever thought about me and over relationship and she said NOT REALLY, but she always thought about me. I know from talking to her although some of her answers bothered me, she still care about me, cause she showed me. She knows that she is more happier with me, but she wants to see how she feels being in a relationship with someone else. YOU KNOW. I have to let her be, and know that she is devoted to another person, makes you feel that you have no chance. I haven't totally given up on her, but she knows that I want her back more than anything, but knows that I am moving on with or without her.

 

I guess what I am trying to say is that you cannot worry yourself sick about who she is with, what they are doing, and if you have a second chance with them or not. You have to pick yourself up, do what you need to do to move on, and if she avoids your calls, and e-mails or whatever, then you need to leave her alone. She will soon enough need to talk, it is up to you to listen or hang up. KARMA can backfire, but it can also help if you really want your ex back. I wanted my ex to know: "Yeah although you are dating the guy I claimed broke us up, I am willing listen to you talk about him." I bet it makes her feel either 2 things: He wants me back so he is going to play it cool, or he has moved on, so he is listening to me as a friend, so he can give me suggesstions on how to fix it. Whatever the case, she knows that I will do anything for her and I know that she was me back someday.

[Toji]

I agree, her answers are rather disturbing. Sounds like she cares about you, but not the relationship you had. She may be happier with you than with this other guy, but that doesn't mean she'd ever actually be completely content. I hope you two get back together, but I also hope if she does decide to come back, she does it for the right reasons. Otherwise she’ll just break your heart again.

 

My ex hated talking about her new boyfriend. The only time she didn't mind was when he was considering going back with his ex. God damn I was so happy when I heard that might be happening, not because I thought it meant we'd get back together, just because I knew it'd be easier to get over her if I didn't think about her f***ing some other guy all the time. That literally drives me to drink.

 

It's really starting to scare me. I feel worse everyday, not better. I feel incredibly depressed 80 percent of the time, to the point where it's hard to function. I don't know how much more of it I can take. I’m doing everything I can to have a good time, to try to keep my mind off of her, but it doesn’t help.

 

This whole thing makes me question whether I ever want to care about someone this much again!

[Toji]

Well, I'm back on the medication. It could be a while to do any good, if it helps at all. I also have problems with anxiety, which I also hope is helped.