krishando Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Ok I didn't know what to do and still don't and i had to turn somewhere, Ok here i go, firstly i'm 20 years old, and just left a 2 and 1/2 year long relationship. For me when your in a relationship that long after a while there isn't anything new to talk about or do if you know your partner like the back of your hand and i really love this girl so i wanted to take a break before a did something to hurt her so i took a "break". about two days later at a party i met this girl and instanly hit it off, this wasn't the first time i saw her, and i didn't approach her cuz i had a girl at the time. Me and her was doing well for at least 2 weeks or so, while me and my "ex" still stayed in contact and talked to eachother about everyday, even the day after the "break'. Well me and the new girl were conversating and old relationships came up, at first i lied and said that me and my ex broke up in december instead of the truth which was january. I did that because i was scared she'll bail because the breakup wasn't that long ago especially a 2 year one. Well obviously that was a problem because even december was a problem and even though we like eachother she was so scared of being hurt saying that she was just a rebound that she just said sorry and left. Me and my ex still have something there , but this new girl i really like alot, she has something there that my old relationship only had in the beginning, I doubt i can get my ex back because she said she was really hurt about my decision and all and the new girl won't give me another chance especially after i told her when i really broke up, she claimed that i lied and what else could i lie about. I think alot of people have to lie to get what they want, and i knew if i told the truth in the beginning she would never give me a chance, can someone really help me i don't know what to do, I think i'm losing my best friend forever(my ex) , and is there any way to get back this new girl, or should i even try. If not should i eally go bavk to the only think i've truely known to love(my ex)? Someone help, please
incognito Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Why the hell do people lie and play games. Had you told the new girl the truth right from the get go, she'd probably be at least willing to hang out w/ you and get to know you while you're getting over your ex and working things out. But how the heck can a relationship grow and be all it can be when it begins from a lie!!!!! And do you honestly think you can still be best friends w/ your ex AND still have this new girl?? Come on...how is that even remotely fair for your ex? Trying to still be friends w/ her is based on YOUR selfishness....you don't want to let her go and be w/o her, yet, it seems you don't actually want to be w/ her enough to ditch the new girl completely. If you do care about your ex, do not try to make her be friends w/ you still....if she wants to on her own, that's another thing...and you should consider yourself lucky. But make sure she knows about the new girl and don't try to drag her along just cause you don't want to deal w/ the pain of losing her....it's too painful to be around someone you still love and can't have. I don't know what to tell about getting the new girl back....perhaps don't start a new relationship w/ a lie, it's a great way to lose someone's trust and faith in you before you've even earned it. EDIT: ....don't mean to sound so harsh....sorry
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