witabix Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Thanks Pada, and Barfool for your kind comments. I wish people would realise that the words on their own, although they have a power, are not enough. When you say "I love you" what are you actually saying? And far, far more importantly what is the woman you are saying it to hearing? Does she hear any of the following? "I really want to have sex with you." "Yea, whatever" "I've said it now, just be quiet" "I'm only saying this because I think you expect me to say it now" "I'm only saying this because you said it first, and think nice guys say it back." Those words must not be thrown around if you do not understand the power inherent in them. Think of it this way perhaps.... "I never really loved you anyway!" "Well I DON'T love you!" Those words hurt like hell, I know. Thats like being hit by a large truck that you didn't see coming. The idea that there is a timescale to saying certain words to another person leaves me slightly puzzled. I really like a lot of women, but even though I have known them for years there is simply no chance that I would ever say those words to them, simply not possible. "I like you" maybe. "You are fun to be around and talk to" perhaps, but "I love you", never. There is power in our words, but the power comes from the heart. When you say you love someone from your heart they will know it. Just as you would know it if someone said "I hate you" from their heart to you. I am a hopelessly unreconstructed romantic. I wear my heart on my sleeve. If I love you, you will know it soon enough. If I hate you, you will be left in no doubt either. Fortunately I hate rarely and infrequently, but I hate with a vengeance. Conversley I have loved my SO's frequently and often, and I love with passion and commitment. I give myself freely and openly to love, it is the only way for me. I cannot play hide and seek with another's heart. I will always stand up and be counted. Love is the greatest gamble a person can take, and the stakes are high, no doubt. But the winners receive a bounty beyond the realm of possessions. The true love of a maiden's heart is the greatest prize known to man. When it strikes me down I get up again, and with a wry smile, I rejoin the fray! Have at you Sir Heart!!
basscatcher Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Witabix You could be a love doctor for all those people who are doing things wrong in their relationships.... :lmao:
Lucasarts Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 you know that "players" also say the same things as witabix only the difference is that they can artificially create that sense of deep and thoughtful meaning behind their words. Hence why and how they get their status as "players." the only difference here is that i know witabix actually means what he says when he says it. True love does come from the heart, but sometimes i think its so easy to win a girl over just by babbling little nothings in their ear and letting them hear what they want to hear. What more can a girl ask for in a man that pays them attention and whispers in their ear "i love you, i love everything about you, i love your smell, the way you smile, the way you laugh, the way you walk, the way your eyes dance across the moonlight, the moments i spend with you seem eternal and all time stops as we are enjoined together to share who we are blah blah blah..." i mean you really want us to say "i love you" like its candy on halloween? sure it'll perk up your ears and make you feel great, but eventually its only gonna rot your teeth after awhile and leave a bitter taste in your mouth. The guys who dont say that they "love you" are probably the most honest ones...at least they arent gonna lead you on, so when it doesnt work out, all those i love you's were empty nothings to cloud your mind. Its simple, if the guy sticks by your side and helps you in thick and thin, then he loves you. If a guy babbles a "i love you" after getting laid then never calls, you've been screwed over and used. so basically stop asking guys why we dont say it, we all have our own reasons why we do or dont...
witabix Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 ................... we all have our own reasons why we do or dont... And that is the nub of the matter. Spot on Lucasarts.
basscatcher Posted February 1, 2006 Posted February 1, 2006 When I am getting the time, attention, lovin, good treatment I also need to know if he loves me through his words also. It is a balance to everythng else. It makes it all come full circle.. It sucks when you can tell he loves you but he wont say it. The look in his eyes, the smile on his face says it all but I still need to hear it. I HAVE heard 'I think, I love you too." but that was the last I have heard in vocals of that subject.. I never mentioned it or brought it up for fear he would get embarrassed and belittle it's worth to me. I cherish those words because I know he is cautious in using words. He has been deeply burned in the past. He told me those 3 words don't come out lightly. So I sit in waiting for the day he takes me in his arms and looks me in the eyes and tells me he loves me.. Will it ever happen? I don't know. Time will only tell... For now I sit in waiting, trying to be patient as my heart grows more and more for him. (I know most of my insecurities about him are stemming from the circle not coming to full by him expressing his words to me about how he feels about and for me.) A PRAYER.... Dear Lord, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man; Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods. Because, Lord, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death. AMEN
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