Chocolatellama Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Argh! I cannot stop thinking about him.. Its been 2 weeks and i feel like its back at day 1. I dreamt about him last night.. i woke up crying and i feel so horrible right now. I can't concentrate on my school work because i can't stop thinking about him. This is my final year of school and i really need to be able to concentrate. What can i do to get him out of my head? I can't keep busy because i have nothing to do except school work and i'm having enough trouble concentrating on that as it is. Anyone have any ideas on how i can stop thinking about him and keep busy?
bluetuesday Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 you know those news items when they catch paedophiles with stacks of porn on their computer hard drives which the kiddy fiddlers thought they'd deleted? well ex-boyfriends are like hard drives. you can't delete them. you can only overwrite them with other stuff. you need to find other thoughts to overwrite the ones you're currently having. play sports, read books, go dancing, rent dvds, play very loud music, paint landscapes, train for a marathon, research your family tree. whatever, just DO SOMETHING that doesn't involve him. start making new memories. start fillin' the space his worthless butt left, and move on. and study hard. the b*astard broke your heart, you gonna let him steal your grades too? expect it will take a bit of time, but don't expect it will take forever. you've shown the will to move on by asking the question. it's a good sign. i dreamed about my ex-fiance once. he was being executed on top of a cliff. i stood watching him come to a sticky end and then kept his head in a box on a shelf in my room. absolutely true story. expect your dreams to get loads better very soon.
UT_longhorn Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 chocolate.... im sorry to hear you are doing so bad. those dreams always messed me up. but also, try not to stop yourself from hurting/grieving. when it hurts...go ahead and allow yourself to completely feel your hurt. don't try to hold it back. and let yourself cry it all out. it'll be surprising how the letting out of emotions and feeling them to the fullest extent helps to heal you. you're doing well. 2 weeks and you've maintained. do not fall back now. and do not maintain any sort of contact. you will start to heal. be patient and give yourself 2 more weeks. you will feel much better. go for a walk or work out. activities that will get your blood pumping is a great way to bring up your mood. if youre in school...maybe you can try to go to the school medical center and try to get some antidepressants. They may have counseling that might help as well.
riobikini Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 RE: BlueTuesday: " ex-boyfriends are like hard drives. you can't delete them. you can only overwrite them with other stuff. " THAT was worth a t-shirt!!!!!! F*cking Brilliant! (BIGGGGG!!! Smile) -Rio
Author Chocolatellama Posted January 31, 2006 Author Posted January 31, 2006 "well ex-boyfriends are like hard drives. you can't delete them. you can only overwrite them with other stuff." lmao.. that made me laugh haha thanks Anyway, i went to a counciller today and i think she is going to help me alot with getting over this. I really need a hobby.. i just have to find something i'm interested in.. I don't know what that is but i guess ill work it out.. thanks guys
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