PA1983 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Hey everyone, I like a girl who just got out of a four year relationship. The things is, she claims to like me but she isn't ready for another relationship. I would love to just play it cool and give her space but at the same time I don't want to keep my hopes for us getting together if it's not going to happen. It's just too stressful for me to worry about. I think I would rather just forget about the girl and move on, if she comes to me then great but I don't want to keep thinking about her and the situation. I see her around campus and have small talk with her but I don't call her. Should I just switch to no contact?
7on Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 I'd say not no contact... maybe partial contact. I'd still do things like delete her off my buddy lists (but not block) and not to initiate conversations. Like you said, she does like you but doesn't want a relationship now. As in she doesn't want you to become a rebound. She probably wants to get over the other guy first before she can properly determine a new relationship. So I wouldn't go out of my way to cut myself from her, but you do need some no contact so you won't be focused on her constantly. Someone I'm pulling NC with for a year now is in 3 of my classes this semester. I am completely over her, as in if she wanted me now there'd be no way for my to comply, but with NC you can end up being really rude to a person. To sum it up don't ignore her, just cut her out enough to concentrate on healing yourself. Or if you want total NC, just tell her that your heart aches for her and there can be no more contact. I definitely wouldn't wait for her though. If you find another girl who is interested in you, go for it.
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