lilmoma1973 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 If given the chance to change your life and could do it again would you be with your spouse or s/o ? Would you chose to be with someone else? Do you wish you didn't have kids ? For those that don't do you regret not ever having them? I read over these posts with the problems and all and was just wondering what people thoughts was !! Just curious ..
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 So i take it that all of you are happy with things the way they are and wouldn't change a thing!!
Mz. Pixie Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Actually, LM, I did change it all! I wasn't happy with the person who I was with, and got a divorce and now I'm married to the person I consider my soulmate.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 Actually, LM, I did change it all! I wasn't happy with the person who I was with, and got a divorce and now I'm married to the person I consider my soulmate. Im glad you found happiness with another Mz.Pixie.. I wish my h would be more open and affectionate and show it more often !! I tell him all the time actions speak louder than words . He let me listen to a song that described the way he feels . He thinks i haven't forgiven him for cheating and never will.. Not true i have but i expect the unexpected so not to get hurt again..
CaliGuy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 If I could do it over I would have left my Ex when I knew things weren't right, about 6 weeks into the relationship.
witabix Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I really wouldn't change anything. My life has been, err very eventful, to say the least. Marrriage, divorce, kids, lived in plenty of different and interesting places, speak several languages, ltr's, seen my friends die, almost died myself, love, anger, abandonedment, success, failure, rejection...... it goes on. I am who I am because of all I have gone through. As we all are. All my exes are cool people in their own right, I was honoured to spend time with them, however it turned out. My kids are fantastic. A lot of people would think my life now is crap, but I like it, well its the only one I've got!
dgiirl Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I often think about this. I do wish things had turned out differently. I wish I had the knowledge to see the problems and got help sooner. Sometimes, I wish I had left my exh much earlier. I sometimes wish I had kids and had done things differently. Sometimes I even wish I had another chance with him. However, I'm at peace with the way my life is unfolding and I know it's happening for a reason. I dont regret getting married, even now that my divorce is almost final. I'm not jaded against marriage, and I can see myself getting married again. I was blessed that even tho our marriage sucked, it could have been a lot worse and it wasnt. I've accomplished a lot in my life and I need to remind myself of those accomplishments. I've learned quiet a lot about myself and I continue to learn. I can look back at the horrible events in my life as pivotal moments that changed me! Those were the exciting important events that changed my life and opened my eyes. Made me closer with my spirtual side. Made me reflect on my own actions. Made me ponder what it is I really wanted out of life. There are still things I want in life. And I fear I might not ever have them again. But that's what makes life interesting. And when you do get them, you appreciate them so much more. So yes and no.
Author lilmoma1973 Posted January 31, 2006 Author Posted January 31, 2006 I often think about this. I do wish things had turned out differently. I wish I had the knowledge to see the problems and got help sooner. Sometimes, I wish I had left my exh much earlier. I sometimes wish I had kids and had done things differently. Sometimes I even wish I had another chance with him. However, I'm at peace with the way my life is unfolding and I know it's happening for a reason. I dont regret getting married, even now that my divorce is almost final. I'm not jaded against marriage, and I can see myself getting married again. I was blessed that even tho our marriage sucked, it could have been a lot worse and it wasnt. I've accomplished a lot in my life and I need to remind myself of those accomplishments. I've learned quiet a lot about myself and I continue to learn. I can look back at the horrible events in my life as pivotal moments that changed me! Those were the exciting important events that changed my life and opened my eyes. Made me closer with my spirtual side. Made me reflect on my own actions. Made me ponder what it is I really wanted out of life. There are still things I want in life. And I fear I might not ever have them again. But that's what makes life interesting. And when you do get them, you appreciate them so much more. So yes and no. Couldn't agree more with your last bit of information the trials and tribulations is what makes us what we are today!! What we can and can't endure ..
caity2 Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 i was thining about one of my past exes and how bad the relationship was, or rather good, because if it wasnt for this then i wouldnt have been who i am today, im so happy now because i have found who i am and who/what really matters in my life. i wouldnt change anything, i really have learned from all my mistakes.
hooghie Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 I would never have stayed with my ex after the first year of our relationship- when I caught him in a HUGE lie. I feel like I wasted many years of my life and I hate that. I would have left him and dated many different guys until I found someone who fit me a bit better. I also always wanted kids by now- I'm scared I'm getting too old to have them
SmoochieFace Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Never would have gotten married. Biggest mistake I ever made.
Ladyehawk Posted February 26, 2006 Posted February 26, 2006 I have the most wonderful children. So, if I had to do it again, I'd definetely have kids. I don't think I'd marry my present SO again. I didn't realize what a control freak he is.
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