manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Here's a brief background: We broke up over a year ago. I've since moved to CO, he still lives in IL. We have barely spoken since the break and he seen each other a few times in passing. I'm pretty sure he cheated on me and then broke up to be with her. I am positive that he and she have had a relationship. He went to HS with my brother-in-law so my whole family knows him. My sister ran into him last week and he was asking about me. He wants me to visit him when I'm home (this weekend). There is a good possiblity we would run into each other as we live in a small town. The problem: If he wants me to visit him, she is out of the picture. She was extremely jealous of me (God only knows why) and would even get mad when he talked to my sister. I still hold some anger because of the way it ended, why he says it ended and because at the time, we spent a lot of time together. I'm pretty sure that my coming to visit him would involve intimacy. I would be adamently opposed but I need to get laid (excuse the crasness). We live so far away and there is no chance for a reconcilation. I want to stop myself, but by the same token, I'm totally up for the sure thing. The question: Has anyone done this and the past stays in the past, no new relationship?
Lonestar Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Yes, I've done that with a a few exes. It didn't feel all that great he next day and I usually couldn't wait until it was a distant memory. The last ex I did that with, we got back together when we never should have. 1
CaliGuy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Here's a brief background: We broke up over a year ago. I've since moved to CO, he still lives in IL. We have barely spoken since the break and he seen each other a few times in passing. I'm pretty sure he cheated on me and then broke up to be with her. I am positive that he and she have had a relationship. He went to HS with my brother-in-law so my whole family knows him. My sister ran into him last week and he was asking about me. He wants me to visit him when I'm home (this weekend). There is a good possiblity we would run into each other as we live in a small town. The problem: If he wants me to visit him, she is out of the picture. She was extremely jealous of me (God only knows why) and would even get mad when he talked to my sister. I still hold some anger because of the way it ended, why he says it ended and because at the time, we spent a lot of time together. I'm pretty sure that my coming to visit him would involve intimacy. I would be adamently opposed but I need to get laid (excuse the crasness). We live so far away and there is no chance for a reconcilation. I want to stop myself, but by the same token, I'm totally up for the sure thing. The question: Has anyone done this and the past stays in the past, no new relationship? If you want to get back with him one day, no. Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free. Go find a FWB if you need sex that bad. If you have it with the Ex I can guarantee he has no reason to pursue you later.
Author manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 If you want to get back with him one day, no. Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free. Go find a FWB if you need sex that bad. If you have it with the Ex I can guarantee he has no reason to pursue you later. There is no possible way we would get back together - the miles, his kids and ex-wife, my need to not settle for someone who isn't what I want in a husband, etc. It's really all about me getting some free milk.
CaliGuy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 There is no possible way we would get back together - the miles, his kids and ex-wife, my need to not settle for someone who isn't what I want in a husband, etc. It's really all about me getting some free milk. Then move to Southern California.
Author manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 Then move to Southern California. Free milk right now. I'm definitely more interested in the cow in the long run.
CaliGuy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Free milk right now. I'm definitely more interested in the cow in the long run. Mooooooooooooooooooooo.
riobikini Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 Manders01, Go get u some. And if the pheromones are still working afterwards, you'll meet someone on the plane by the time you get home. (Smile) -Rio
Author manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 Mooooooooooooooooooooo. You tempt me. You're out of my league though.
Author manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 Manders01, Go get u some. And if the pheromones are still working afterwards, you'll meet someone on the plane by the time you get home. (Smile) -Rio Now that would be great!
CaliGuy Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 You tempt me. You're out of my league though. Flattery will get you everywhere
TUDOR Posted January 30, 2006 Posted January 30, 2006 My humble opinion is you that you should take what you want from seeing him if that includes a good roll in the hay then go for it. BUT, make it clear that it is all it is so there is no grand illussions on his part of what is happening. As adults there is nothing wrong with consenting no obligations sex. Just have you head clear of what it really is and don't get sucked back into your emotions and history with the guy. But by all means, a girl needs to eat and at least it will be with someone with familarity to you and you will feel safe.
Author manders_01 Posted January 30, 2006 Author Posted January 30, 2006 Flattery will get you everywhere Then let me tell you how hot you look up on the slopes!
CaliGuy Posted January 31, 2006 Posted January 31, 2006 Then let me tell you how hot you look up on the slopes! If you think I look hot on the slopes, you should see me without the snow gear on
Author manders_01 Posted January 31, 2006 Author Posted January 31, 2006 at least it will be with someone with familarity to you and you will feel safe. I think that's why I'm okay with it. It's not new or awkward or anything that would cause a good roll in the hay to be not so much.
Author manders_01 Posted January 31, 2006 Author Posted January 31, 2006 If you think I look hot on the slopes, you should see me without the snow gear on Sounds like a plan! Ya know, I do live minutes from some great skiing.
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